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irisblue

(32,982 posts)
Fri Nov 19, 2021, 03:48 PM Nov 2021

I am in an extremely anxious state this week

Can I get some good vibes sent my way?
I just got a book by Ted Zeff-The Highly Sensitive Persons Survival Guide.
Any advice about being diagnosed with anxiety, massive recurrent depression and being a highly sensitive person would be valued. Here in this thread or through DMs
Thanks

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I am in an extremely anxious state this week (Original Post) irisblue Nov 2021 OP
Sending hope and kindness to you. spicysista Nov 2021 #1
Hang in there Iris kimbutgar Nov 2021 #2
Coping skills are varied and unique to the individual. Backseat Driver Nov 2021 #3
These help me. Maraya1969 Nov 2021 #4
I am sending these to a badly depressed friend Bayard Nov 2021 #5
Healing vibes on the way! SheltieLover Nov 2021 #6
I'm similar in makeup.sending my strongest vibes! GPV Nov 2021 #7

Backseat Driver

(4,393 posts)
3. Coping skills are varied and unique to the individual.
Fri Nov 19, 2021, 04:15 PM
Nov 2021

I know it's difficult to "walk a mile in someone else's moccasins" before the judgments spew out of one's mouth - de-escalation techniques for anger or knowledge of what cognitive harm may be delivered when life is not fair (What the heck is human error, anyhow?) is the more needed in showing respect in community and/or in more intimate relationships so it's no wonder there's vastly more super-sensitivity, depression, and anxiety these days. We become on high alert, sad, and overly responsible in our self-defenses and by cognitive behavioral responses...SMH

I hope you find useful information to consider when you finish your new book. Future book review?

Maraya1969

(22,483 posts)
4. These help me.
Fri Nov 19, 2021, 04:24 PM
Nov 2021

A purpose for using a Tool List is to enable newcomers to more easily and rapidly participate in
a Recovery meeting. With this in mind Recovery International encourages you to use this list
when you initially attend our meetings, until you feel comfortable without it. Your Group Leader
may have other guidelines for you regarding the use of this list in meetings. We are glad that
you are here and encourage you to participate and endorse for your participation!
These tools are quoted or adapted from Dr. Low’s books: Mental Health Through Will Training
(MH), Selections from Dr. Low’s Works (SEL) and Manage Your Fears, Manage Your Anger
(MYF). Citations to Dr. Low’s books are listed for each tool. Many other tools can be found in
these books.


Some Basic RI Tools


 Treat mental health as a business and not as a game………………..…...……………MH ch.25
 Humor is our best friend, temper is our worst enemy……………………………….…..MH p.108
 If you can't change a situation you can change your attitude towards it...MYF p.108, Sel. p.31-32
 Be self-led, not symptom-led. …..………………………………………......MYF p.114-118, 280-283
 Nervous symptoms and sensations are distressing but not dangerous .SEL p.53, MH p.115, 119
 Temper is, among other things, blindness to the other side of the story …………MH p.159
 Comfort is a want, not a need. ………………………………..……………......….....MH chs.13, 22
 There is no right or wrong in the trivialities of every day life………...SEL p.39, MH p.157, 195-196
 Calm begets calm, temper begets temper………………………….…...…….MYF p.245, SEL p.31
 Don't take our own dear selves too seriously………………………………....………….MH p.109
 Feelings should be expressed and temper suppressed…………………....……...…....MH p.178
 Helplessness is not hopelessness………………………..……………….……MH ch.7, MYF p.184
 Some people have a passion for self-distrust…….…………...…..…….MH ch.29 & MYF Lecture 2
 Temper maintains and intensifies symptoms………………………..…….……….……MH p. 219
 Do things in part acts……………………………………………….…….……….……MH p.246-249
 Endorse yourself for the effort, not only for the performance……...…….MYF p.13, SEL p.46, 132
 Have the courage to make a mistake………………..……….MH p.203, ch.30, MYF p.60, SEL p.108
 Feelings are not facts……………………………...……………..………….MH ch.9, MYF Lecture 14
 Do the things you fear and hate to do……………...………..…………...MH p. 329-330, MYF p.197
 Fear is a belief –– beliefs can be changed………………………………………….MYF p.266-269
 Every act of self-control leads to a sense of self-respect....…………….…….………..MH p.166
 Decide, plan and act. ………………………….……………………………………………...MH p.42
 Any decision will steady you……………………………………...……………….………...MYF p.5
 Anticipation is often worse than realization….…………………..…..………….MH p.114-115, 146
 Replace an insecure thought with a secure thought……………..……….….……..MYF Lecture 1
 Bear the discomfort in order to gain comfort…………………….………….…………….MH p.149
 Hurt feelings are just beliefs not shared………………………………….………………..SEL p.21
 Self-appointed expectations lead to self-induced frustrations…………….…………….SEL p.35
 People do things that annoy us, not necessarily to annoy us………..…...…………….MH ch.48
 Knowledge teaches you what to do, practice tells you how to do it……...……………SEL p.118
 Muscles can be commanded to do what one fears to do………………………..……..SEL p.123
 Tempers are frequently uncontrolled, but not uncontrollable.…………………………..MH p.392


Angry Temper –– negative judgments (resentment, impatience, indignation,
disgust, hatred) directed against another person or situation.
Fearful Temper –– negative judgments (discouragement, preoccupation,
embarrassment, worry, hopelessness, despair, sense of shame, feelings of
inadequacy) directed against oneself.
Averageness — most of the things we experience, including nervous symptoms are
average — most people have experienced them. Only our tendency to work
them up makes them seem exceptional to us.
Self-endorsement — self-praise for any effort to practice the RI method. We
recognize the value of every effort we make regardless of the result.
Sabotage — when we ignore or choose not to practice what we have learned in RI.
When we do not do what is best for our mental health.
Trivialities — the everyday events and irritations of daily life. Compared to our
mental health, most events are trivial
Inner Environment — everything inside your self: feelings, sensations, thoughts,
impulses and muscles.
Outer Environment — everything outside your self: places, people, events, and the
past.
Spotting — identifying a disturbing feeling, sensation, thought or pulse, previously
unseen…then applying the right Recovery tools.

Bayard

(22,100 posts)
5. I am sending these to a badly depressed friend
Fri Nov 19, 2021, 05:31 PM
Nov 2021

Thanks!

Dear Irisblue, sending a wave of positive and calm vibes your way.

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