My friend is 74.

[no_hypocrisy]

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And his 36 yo daughter wants to hijack his life.

She has made unfounded, spacious claims that he's suffering dementia -- without any medical/neurological evidence. (She's a physical therapist.)

And she wants her parents* to sell their home and move out to Pennsylvania, near her, so she can "take care of them." Move into a senior citizen residence (but not a nursing home). And move him away from his other child, a son in his 40s and his grandchildren.

And did I mention that "Dad" is about to be given a $1 million settlement from a head-on car accident? Gee, I wonder who will be custodian of those funds?

While the daughter is not going to court to press for conservatorship, she's putting pressure on him. It started out with a few suggestions that he's forgetful. It's now a campaign, if only to convince him to voluntarily submit to her.

Query: Are any of your children prematurely putting pressure on you to give up independent living and let them control your life?

* This guy has had a contentious marriage, even before they were married. His wife literally screams at him all the time. Can you imagine?

[JohnSJ]

1. He should find a good lawyer

[Sherman A1]

2. Well, certainly seems like

There is a profit motive involved here. Hopefully the son becomes involved and the two siblings can figure it out between them.

[Tetrachloride]

3. Get the lawyer. Set up a meeting with the District Attorney.

File charges.

A friend had an elderly issue and it cost him. he didn’t fight back. The judge was far from diligent.

if the DA does nothing, go full social media.

[SheltieLover]

4. Exploitation of the elderly is a crime

My advice would be to get a lawyer and disinherit the pos daughter.

Let the daughter know she is disinherited.

End of bs..

Poor guy. 😏

[Rebl2]

7. Maybe an elder

lawyer who specializes in older clients would be a good idea and get the son involved.

[SheltieLover]

8. Yes!

Great idea!

[sinkingfeeling]

5. To answer your question, no. My only son thinks I'm still fine and

needs me to assist him in his house renovation. Been putting down subflooring. I'm his 73 year old mother.

[viva la]

6. He needs his own doctor too...

To counteract any doctor she gets.

[MOMFUDSKI]

9. If your family is not to be trusted

you should make an attorney your power of attorney. My daughter, a CNA, has seen this stuff happen all the time. One client, with a ton of money, wanted to die in her downtown bazillion-dollar condo. Her sister, with power of attorney, decided to put her in a home and she died a few months later. My daughter was beside herself. An attorney would have ordered round-the-clock care by people like my daughter and her wish would have been granted. Be careful who you give power to.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

10. These stories are wrenching.

And show how important it is to plan for one's later life.

I'm currently 73. In excellent health. Living on my own. One son, 38. He's currently finishing graduate school on the other side of the country, and I honestly hope we can live together, or at least a lot closer to each other, when he's done. But even if he's okay with living together, I would never expect him to be my caretaker if I stop being this independent. I will cheerfully go into independent, then assisted living.

I know that so many people have very limited financial resources, which is unfortunate. I'm not all that rich, but I have enough that I could easily finance a number of years of care.

I hope your friend is taking steps to counteract the daughter.

[ZonkerHarris]

11. he needs a lawyer, stat