I Have a Dream: That People Will View a Picture Like This and Not Think It’s a Big Deal

[Blue_Tires]

http://goodmenproject.com/families/i-have-a-dream-that-people-will-view-a-picture-life-this-and-not-think-its-a-big-deal-gmp/

I have a dream that insecure dads will spend less time hating on good dads and more time on getting their own shit together. I’d say 95% of the dads who follow me are actively involved in their kids’ lives and view parenting as a 50/50 endeavor with their wives/girlfriends. They send me “Thank You” emails, they’ll say it’s refreshing to see a guy (me) who embraces fatherhood as much as they do, and they’ll refer other good dads to my blog because they know I’ll celebrate them. Words cannot express how much I appreciate those men because they will play a huge role in making fatherhood “cool” again (granted, I always thought fatherhood was cool, but that’s another story).

On the flip side, there’s a small pocket of men out there that can’t stand me. Here’s a sampling of some of the private messages and comments I received from them after I posted this picture:
- “He probably rented those kids. They don’t even look like him.”

As I’ve said in previous blog posts, I’m not immune to hate mail—and some messages are racist in nature and some aren’t. It comes with the territory of doing what I do and I completely understand that. However, do you know what’s funny? Oftentimes when a dude posts a public hateful comment on my FB page or Twitter feed, it’s followed up by his wife or girlfriend emailing me privately to apologize for his behavior. These women will tell me that their men are angry that I’m making them “look bad” because they aren’t holding up their end of the bargain when it comes to parenting. Here’s the thing: I don’t make anyone look bad. These guys are doing a fine job on their own according to the women in their lives.

Memo to the small pocket of male haters I have: Why don’t you put big boy shorts on and get in on the revolution of good fathers? It’s not a good look to tear down dads for doing the work your wives wished you were man enough to do on your own. If you don’t believe me, just ask your spouses. They’ll tell you.

But don’t worry. I’ll still be here whenever you’re ready to step your game up and join #TeamGrownAssMan.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10024291396

[libodem]

1. I want to punch those haters

But I think we are supposed to pray for them. I'll have to vibe it up the best atheist way I can cuz I'm ready to call my pal Skittles, to help me kick some hater-ass.

Om. Ommmm. Ommmmm.


That's a good dad.

[kwassa]

2. I always wonder about the haters on the Internets.

Those that populate comments sections of major media outlets and other unregulated spots.

To me the picture is not a big deal, I know lots of dads like this, and lots of interethnic/interracial marriages, and the children of those relationships.

[FreedRadical]

3. Thank you for that picture.

I have to admit it. I live in fear of doing a little girls hair. I mean you let your child's grandmother see her with her hair all wrong! No thanks. I'd pay one of my sisters or take her to the beauty shop.

[heaven05]

4. He's a real man

and his kids will appreciate him. #TeamGrownAssMan. Great!