Atheists & Agnostics
Related: About this forumI propose a reboot.
I'm concerned, and something is likely to start to happen as a result of what is going on. There's a lot of bad blood around here, and I won't say much of it is unearned. But it is not helping. I'm not immune either, I've been plenty pissed off, and I'm sure I've pissed others off as well. But a couple of problems are arising.
1. We're starting to get reactions here in A&A of posters that do not accept the tone of discourse right now, here, within the group. For every one that gets banned for flipping out over it, you can be sure many others just walked away, saying nothing. All that produces is an echo chamber, and nobody benefits from that. There have been hinting posts here and there that other users that don't post much are not enjoying what is happening right now, and these are our friends.
2. There is increasingly credible huff and noise about the possibility of creating additional groups, to get around well-earned bans/turn this folder into even more of an echo chamber/result in the tumbleweed fest that we can see resulted in breaking out faith based forums into interfaith, and the like. Dilution is unhelpful in this context. It's another tool to chip away at A&A, just as bad or worse than someone masquerading in here about being an atheist or agnostic, and instead, being an religious apologist contrarian and starting shit.
3. Jury comments. There's a lot of bitter vets out there. Either people who look in here and see the vitriol, and assume the worst about all of us, or worse, people getting taken out by multiple hides for posting things here that aren't acceptable anywhere on DU, and frankly, deserve a hide. I see a lot of comments in jury decisions where the jury member is clearly prejudiced against the group, and that might spread.
I understand all of the bitterness. I do. The phrase "I've been plenty provoked, thank you very much" comes to mind. I totally understand, and I share much of it. But the vitriol here, the knee jerk reactions, the coded mockery of specific posters, it's all going to come to a very bad end if we all don't take a breath, take a step back, and clear the content of anger.
I propose, before posting anything here, take a moment to consider, 'would this post survive in GD?'
I don't want to compare to other subgroups that have SOP's that serve to ban us on one-two post notice, I mean, would XYZ post reflect well on, and be acceptable in the DU community at large? If no, maybe better not to post it.
Sometimes a victory lap, or spiking the ball in the endzone can produce a penalty. Let's not be the ones to do that. If we need to blow off steam, there are other outlets off DU, apparently.
Anyhoo, just a proposition, food for thought. My hope is that the discourse IN HERE could be clean enough that if someone new wandered in, they wouldn't be aghast at our own comments. It's bad PR at the least.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)uriel1972
(4,261 posts)But the GD test aint a fair one in my opinion. That's my opinion, I might be wrong.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)than the worst of what has been posted here.
PoutrageFatigue
(416 posts)...or the foreskin debates....or '50 Shades of Who Gives a Shit' flamefests...
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)GD is actually incredibly hostile to religion. But what it doesn't allow is direct character attacks, especially out of context or recurring from thread to thread, without an immediate, clear reason why the anger popped up.
Vitriol at religion, especially when clearly deserved/justifiable, and in keeping with democratic/progressive political concerns, totally fair game in GD, and that's why religious shit gets banished to Religion, because reasoned discourse doesn't happen in that venue.
But vitriol at the posters in question, unbidden, moving from thread to thread, like the 1%er yacht club jokes... that stuff wouldn't survive in GD.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)one of his main complaints was evidently not the baiting behavior of our beloved Interfaithers, but that people here were taking the bait. In other words, we need to be more responsible for our behavior, but they don't. Not sure how that works, but whatever.
We all need to realize that the situation is not even. In Interfaith, a person can be blocked for just being present - even if they are not in any way violating the SoP. And regulars there are free to use terms like "assholes" or "fuckers" to DIRECTLY refer to us - with no repercussions whatsoever. Where are the lectures on that?? There is no parity at all; the deck is stacked against us and always will be. Uppity atheists who criticize religion are simply not welcome in most circles. It's marginally better here on DU than in the real world, but there is still that hatred and bias.
There is a double standard and clearly there always will be. And that translates directly into a lot of hard feelings and anger.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)There are other signs. I almost missed the Intaglio fiasco entirely. Didn't even notice it.
I can link to other posts, the ones I'm more concerned about, the softer, "WTF is happening here' type posts that suggest people are withdrawing from the venue. But I don't want them to seem as a callout.
enki23
(7,788 posts)And it's being done by people who can expect their religious point of view to be in the majority, and a religious point of view which defines its adherents as righteous victims regardless of their actual behavior or circumstances. What you're seeing is their particular religious bullshit in action, with all the advantages and privileges and excuses its majority status brings.
And then you're seeing some people who are justifiably pissed off at the fucking pricks.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Attempts to fabricate a misconstrual of a post are usually met with outright hostility from a jury.
But some of us are feeding them the sort of content that is much more likely to either be found objectionable by a jury, or could easily be painted by the alerter in a light that sways a jury against it.
PoutrageFatigue
(416 posts)...
enki23
(7,788 posts)It's silly to imagine that the jury system is entirely reliable, or entirely fair. There will be both random and systematic errors. The random errors affect everyone, in theory, equally. But they won't if the background rate of alerts is different between two groups. If atheist posts are alerted on more often, they will be hidden more often, even if all else is equal, so long as there is *any* error rate in jury judgements.
Short version: People who drive more have more car accidents, even though they are likely to be better at driving.
Systematic error would be hard to prove without data that won't be forthcoming. But we have data for the general population that would make the idea that there isn't a strong ant-atheist bias a fucking absurd pretense. Without very strong data that the DU jury is *massively* different from the general population in that way, it's safe to assume that plays a role as well.
We can pretend that we "just need to be better than them." But that's bullshit. What we can do is simply accept that they have the advantages and privileges of their status, and their eagerness to hit the alert link. Wear your hides with pride, so long as they weren't entirely deserved. And we have plenty of recent evidence that many are absolutely not.
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)A "jury" that often has no clue what is going on and is often sympathetic to the religious side, or are Kumbaya, "can't we just be nice" milquetoast.
It ain't a jury of peers. And 7 is a small jury.
I got alerted on because I pointed out a poster's homophobia that was snidely directed at me.... alerted on by the homophobe! What the hell is that????
The "fairness" of the jury system here is a joke. And it's being used to intimidate.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Who's going to step up and publicly chastise cbayer, for accusing a DUer of proposing genocide? Or for admitting that she herself "laughed" while reading the book of Mormon on a day trip through Utah?
Who's going to take rug to task for starting up flamefests and endless petty insults and sniping? Thankfully I've been spared from most of his bullshit for the past year and a half thanks to ignore but I still see way too much between links and quotes in other posts. Certainly I see enough to know that he hasn't ratcheted down his offensive behavior.
Where were the civility police when Starboard Tack started ripping things up with comparisons of gay marriage and marrying one's grandmother, or bicycle? Or the other vicious, nasty insults he flings?
When does okasha get taken to task for her insults and attacks - not to mention her false accusation that somehow I called her a homophobe?
What I see us being told is that we just need to accept this horrid behavior, shut up, and sit down.
I fully expect this post to get hidden but at this point I don't give a shit. I'm so fed up with this double standard and the self-righteousness.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)By all means, call them out. (But lets do it in Religion, not here.)
This is the sort of post I meant:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1230&pid=26992
There have been other one-post hints people are withdrawing.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)LostOne4Ever was upset to find a thread chewing us out again.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)Something that I am used to seeing in religion as opposed to here. Thus the comment on making sure I was in the right forum.
Not to say that I was particularly fond of the bashing either.
Edit:
I was tempted to link that post in my other reply to you when I mentioned stepping out of threads, but chose not too because I did not want to risk reviving that thread.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)that the attitude of the OP is reflective of the BS that most of us experience in Religion.
I may be wrong and that person can certainly speak for themselves.
muriel_volestrangler
(101,315 posts)and that the thread was thus not worth participating in.
I've missed all the sturm und drang, since I was on vacation, and am just catching up now. While one or two posts by A&A regulars may have gone too far or helped make the group look a bit cliquey, it doesn't look to me like a general problem.
Mariana
(14,856 posts)They've only gotten much worse over time. Of course they're baiting - they want to be called out. They get a charge out of making hateful posts in the first place, and then they get to pretend to be innocent victims of those mean ole atheists.
I don't know what the solution is. I can say that it's very obvious to anyone who reads the threads exactly what's going on. Sadly, there are still an awful lot of people who heartily approve of such behavior toward atheists.
onager
(9,356 posts)Is that randomly selected jurors often don't know the long and rancorous history here. In one of the recent AA mega-threads, a juror complained about "being dragged into the religion wars again." I can't blame that juror. If I were a normal DU user with no skin in the Religion/AA debate, I'd resent being dragged into this too.
But jurors like that just see what probably looks like petty squabbling, and don't know our back-story:
Such as two of the comedians you mentioned above, claiming atheists openly discriminate against the religious because they can no longer openly discriminate against gays and racial minorities.
Such as blasting members of the A/A group as "malcontents" and bragging about making the Religion forum a "nicer place." Clearly implying a place with no outspoken atheists. Though NICE atheists were still welcome, I guess.
Such as posters in Religion openly calling for non-believers to be banned completely from that forum, even though the forum description explicitly welcomes non-believers.
Such as lecturing people endlessly on their Atheist Privilege, while steadfastly refusing to recognize their own privilege.
And let's not forget the master-baiters in Religion, who provoke people until they get an alertable response. Where they are no doubt hoping to rope in Jurors with no knowledge of The Great DU Schism.
So yes, along with the thought-provoking posts about atheism in general etc. in this group, I often come here to enjoy childish humor at the expense of these pompous, self-appointed guardians of All That Is Right And Good. It reminds me of the classic mission of journalism - to comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable.
Having said all that, I'd rather not get booted and know that we have quite a few itchy little Alert Fingers in here nowadays. So I will try to be good.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)On Tue Aug 26, 2014, 03:33 PM an alert was sent on the following post:
Hey, I'll do some callouts.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1230&pid=27046
REASON FOR ALERT
This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.
ALERTER'S COMMENTS
This poster is making accusations, false ones about other DUers, while using a safe haven to do it.
cbayer proposing genocide? That's a serious accusation. It's also bullshit. And as this poster knows, she cannot respond.
You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Tue Aug 26, 2014, 04:23 PM, and the Jury voted 3-4 to LEAVE IT.
Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: The post did not accuse cbayer of proposing genocide, but of accusing another DUer of doing so. In this case it is a valid observation of religious bias in certain areas of the board.
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #3 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: While I can understand the frustration trotsky is expressing, this post went way over the line.
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: Personal attacks are not acceptable, especially when DUers are being attacked by name.
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Seems like a legitimate series of questions.
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #7 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Hi, trolls! Nice to see you again.
(This is NOT directed at you. I hope you know that!)
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)not easy.
It took some reading through the threads on this OP and several others to realize there is a lot of crap going on here that needs to be aired out on all sides and fixed and so I ultimately voted not to hide, but I can understand voting either way, the poster said as much that he/she expected a hide.
On Edit: But yes, I know the comment was not directed at me
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Color me shocked. And lo and behold, the alerter even LIED - as Juror #1 noted.
RussBLib
(9,008 posts)and see that the alerter was lying. Sounds rather devious.
And so the alerter stays anonymous in all cases?
Yes, thanks Steven!
trotsky
(49,533 posts)I'm confident that was the plan.
And while alerters are anonymous to all of us regulars, that information is available to admins.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)And we're not the only subgroup with this problem.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1172151983
All I can say is, don't put up posts that can be misconstrued as part of the alert bait buffet. Don't give them the satisfaction.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)sort of dishonesty says about them.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)It's almost as if the alerter feels s/he has the right-of-way. IOW, they feel entitled. Privileged, if you will.
Response to cleanhippie (Reply #61)
AtheistCrusader This message was self-deleted by its author.
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)That said, I think that if posters here are worried about the tone the best way to fix that is to be an example.
For example, I can't take the tone in the religion group anymore, so I am trying to post threads in here instead that would be of interest to the members of A&A instead. In particular, on the subject of the rights of non-believers. These were my two most recent attempts:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/123026812
http://www.democraticunderground.com/123026549
When I see a thread I don't like, I either state my opinion in an non-confrontational literary tone, step out, or both. I disagreed with many of the sentiments expressed in a recent thread here and I posted my point of view. Someone even replied back, and though we disagreed it didn't turn into the theatrics of another thread.
That has been one of the best aspects of this forum till a couple of recent disruptions. We could tolerate a difference of opinion. However, the problem that we are currently facing seems to be that some people are looking for a fight. I remain convinced the recent episode could have been avoided had the dispute been taken privately, or that someone had invested a bit more into diplomacy.
I personally try to use a similar method I developed on another forum a while back. I ask myself does this really need to be said, and does this sound like the real me? Forums have a tendency to bring out the worst in us, and I find this works out pretty good. Its not perfect, but I was on my last warning on that forum and then went 4 years without any problems.
As for the offsite suggestion, I think that is a great idea for those needing to release steam. Lets not give the people on DU who love to bash this group anymore ammunition.
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)from only 3 or 4 posters.
Lars39
(26,109 posts)Why isn't the group a safe haven and does the SOP need to be fine-tuned to make it one, or to head off other unpleasantness?
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)and that won't be considered by a jury full of people from outside the group.
Lars39
(26,109 posts)The only thing I can think of is to not Religion or Interfaith arguments spill over here then.
Would mean a whole lot of thread locks until everybody got used to it.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)So people who don't like us troll this group for anything and everything that can possibly be alerted on and alert on those posts at every opportunity. And why not? The penalty for a failed alert is, at the very worst, an inability to alert for a day. The penalty for a hide can be as bad as a 90 day unplanned vacation or a ppr. This imbalance, entirely intentional, does not have quite the intended effect that the administrators thought it would have. It doesn't lead to an increase in civility, as far as I can tell. Instead incivility is couched in ambiguity in order to avoid hides, and alert trolling has become the new meta-sport on DU (and its sister site discussionist.)
Note that when a person gets a time-out, their alerted on posts are revealed for all to see. There is no such penalty for the alert happy. There is zero transparency in the alert system. We could of course, given the lack of data, simply be paranoid. Transparency on alerts would put an end to the guessing.
PoutrageFatigue
(416 posts)^^This is the sensible answer^^
Lars39
(26,109 posts)So "successful" they opened a branch office to enlarge profits, imo.
Probably in their view, opening the alerters' transparency would increase their headaches.
Seems like it would decrease the problems for members, though. I'm all for transparency.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)deucemagnet
(4,549 posts)I haven't been posting because I have no interest in engaging in conversation with the members of the religion forum over there, nor talking about the members of the religion forum over here, so I've been waiting for things to calm down a bit. I still browse the religion forum occasionally because many members of this group make really good posts over there, but over the past week or so the tide of shit in religion got too high for me to wade through, so I retreated to our safe haven, only to find that the feud had spilled over to here as well. While I understand the anger and frustration of dealing with religious privilege, cognitive dissonance, abject dishonesty, deflection, coyness, projection, hypocrisy, gish gallops etc, I think we cross a line when we post attacks on individuals here, either direct or veiled.
I agree with AC in that we could be shooting ourselves in the foot if we don't calm things down soon, no matter how righteous our anger or well-deserved our ire.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)What you propose would only effect those of us here in A&A. The folks on the other side of this equation will not participate in such a reboot, for they feel that they don't have any part of being the problem.
Perhaps remembering that this is an anonymous message board with little to no effect on the real world will help to make this sideshow we call DU more palatable to you.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)You're absolutely right, it'll make them no better.
But it'll make sure we don't alienate any of our own members, new visitors, and stop feeding those people alert bait.
I'm all for challenging them, and I can be as vicious as anyone, no worries there. I'm just trying not to be, and hoping we can keep our own little habitat clear of their bullshit, or reflections of it.
Echo chambers are unhelpful, and will drive away friendlies, an feed the alert bait buffet line.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)And it's a good one that I agree with.
But in practical terms, I think it's an exercise in futility. I'll go along with whatever the group consensus turns out to be.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Just as a test. And nothing changed. Even without us there criticizing religion, the usual suspects were flinging poo.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)NOTHING. CHANGED. AT. ALL.
'Nuff said.
mr blur
(7,753 posts)For a week there was very little to hear there but crickets.
And the "Guess what DAWKINS said!1!" stories of course.
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)BINGO!
I refuse to alert on anyone.
It often just means the alerter lost the "I'll have the last word" game in the forum and had to resort to telling Daddy.
JNelson6563
(28,151 posts)quit with the meta. Just fucking stop. Everyone.
If you can't walk awy from the problem (for you) areas and leave it behind then perhaps you need to apply Ignore and Trash Forum liberally.
And I mean "you" in general terms, not anyne specific.
Julie
mr blur
(7,753 posts)I'm aware that I'm one of those that the people that we must careful not to upset love to hate. I understand that I play right into their self-righteous hands because I will not tolerate bullshit and condescension. I am guilty of despising these people, I admit it. Perhaps not as much as they hate me (and others here) for refusing to pretend that we find their fantasies worthy of anything but mockery and ridicule, but that's why I have most of them on Ignore.
I agree with everything Trotsky said above in #8.
I also know that nothing will change in Religion because...well, you know why.
We're all used to the way religious privilege works here. We can expect to be attacked, cornered and hidden in Religion. The jury system sucks. But I don't see why we have to tolerate it in A&A and then seem to have to justify our reactions to people who wouldn't cross the road to piss on us if we were on fire. (Oh, they might pray for us and expect us to be grateful for it, but that's not doing anything at all, is it?)
I don't live in the US, nobody here gives a fuck whether or not I believe in that infantile nonsense; I have never experienced what atheists there have to endure . But I have to say that the way they are treated on parts of DU has given me some insight.
So tell you what, the best way I can help you out is to shut up and go away. So I will, OK?
If nothing else, it will encourage our alienated acquaintances to come back and try to get us to all love on another.
Oh, I forgot, they're not allowed to. Must have been something they said.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I'd just suggest a simple litmus test: Is the post of the nature that would get it a hide in GD? If so, bad idea.
Skinner's own litmus test, I believe.
mr blur
(7,753 posts)I don't want you all to think this is one of those DU-drama-queen-I'm-leaving!-so-there! things. Not at all. I appreciate all the you said and are trying to do and it's probably the right thing to do but I'll never manage it. There's a wonderful universe out there and I'm not going to waste time feigning deference to a bunch of mental midgets who have managed to reduce all that wonder to a book of fantasies and a lifetime of willful ignorance, and then expect us to respect them for their fear. Not to mention the "I'm an atheist but I love everybody (except you) won't somebody think of the poor religionists?!" bunch
You can dress bullshit in any fancy trappings you like but it's still bullshit.
Sorry, that doesn't reassure me at all.
Good luck. Really.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)WTF?
DO. NOT. GO. ANYWHERE.
onager
(9,356 posts)Your opinions are valuable because you're not one of us "septics," and provide insights we don't usually get here in One Nation Under Jebus. I also don't like imagining I hear the sound of champagne corks popping in A Certain Group when they hear this news.
But I do understand your frustration with the whole thing.
RussBLib
(9,008 posts)I post rather rarely in this group, and I don't scan the posts as much as I used to. I spend zero time in the Religion or Interfaith groups, so I am unfamiliar with some of the more-contentious posters. The appeal of tweaking another group of people that you tend to disagree with can be hard to resist.
If I see a post with a lot of replies, I will often avoid it because it does tend to devolve into argument.
It's great to have a group dedicated to atheists/agnostics and I find it unfortunate that it is frequented by non-atheists and non-agnostics. If they want a General Discussion, open to anything, go there to GD. Would be a shame to lose this group, but it could easily morph and re-surface.
FYI, I have never alerted on any post by any member. You could call it jaded.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)It was bound to come to a head sooner or later. Perhaps better now anyway.
Lordquinton
(7,886 posts)Purpertrated by a vocal minority who got banned from here. Looking at the stats (which some talked about but didn't when pressed) religion, the active group in the R&S forum, has 243 subs, A&A has 443, 200 more subs than the main group. Interfaith has 66 subs, and contains the most vocal anti-AA posters, which leads me to believe that everything is fine if the instigators would leave us alone.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I feel we are inexorably winning, especially in the Religion group. So, falling back, they have taken to alert trolling us.
Between meta, and just generally taking nasty bait from them, no matter how obviously bait it is, they are finding ways to silence us.
I agree with your analysis, Interfaith is a tumbleweed filled void. The middle ground is Religion, and I think we dominate that territory.
They can't fuck with us in here unless we let them via the alert mechanism.
Rainforestgoddess
(436 posts)No need to keep poking them with a stick?
I feel lucky that I live in a part of the world where the corner rats are basically ignored, and shrivelling away.
onager
(9,356 posts)Rainforestgoddess
(436 posts)Promethean
(468 posts)is that a large part of it is due to their own actions. One particular poster has been linking to blogs and articles written by atheists that express simply beautiful sentiments or make some of the best arguments against religion out there. However you can tell this poster is only reading the titles of the articles and posting them with the intention of trying to hold atheist's words against us.
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)The religion forum IS a vocal minority. 50% of the threads are started by 3 or 4 people.
There are many religious people on here who are not all "I'm religious!" just like in the real world. But when they vote in juries....
I like to go over to see what malarkey they are saying over there about atheists. It's mind boggling sometimes. The disingenuousness is staggering. It must be seen to be believed! And BS MUST be pointed out.
Most alerts concern snark and oh-so-clever comebacks to complete absurdities.... and the "I'll have the last (clever) word" game.
Perhaps we need a "Look at what they''re saying NOW!" forum. (I'm JOKING.... as usual. Besides, if god can't take a joke, who can?)
Things spill into this forum because posters are looking for back up from fellow atheists, or someone is trying to start something.
Seems pretty typical for a message board.
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)Are we supposed to act like different people now? My default position is an atheist whom ancient superstitions has no authority over.
Is everyone in all the relevant boards gonna play?
Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)I think that it would be a shame to allow A&A to be thinned out with unplanned vacations or death. There are so many ways to say the same thing, and we should work at saying it in a way that keeps things civil without call-outs or posts that piss people off. But that is up to each poster to decide.
I do not think that this group is run by a few nasty atheists, and I have always been treated well and welcomed here. I do wish that some would not use a cattle prod to instigate, but I can't stop that. I would prefer that we look like the sane ones and the people who are trying to cause problems from outside of this group would look like they are holding a grudge.
I respect your posts, AC, and wish that I could debate as well as you do without getting upset---even when provoked. Good job.
Manifestor_of_Light
(21,046 posts)I got chased out of Interfaith and was warned to watch my language. I WAS watching my language very carefully.
But we all know that they're very sensitive and no criticisms of their beliefs is allowed. Confronting them by asking them why their belief in jebus, who is historically an imaginary figure, is just as irrational as believing in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny means they will a)not have an answer; and b)alert on you for asking those fundamental questions.
So we should just try to keep the trolls out or do we need another group? Possibly.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I feel like I am walking a razor-thin line when posting there, and also, the line is invisible, and certain death awaits on either side of it.
Still, making an effort though. Possible to reach some individuals there, that no longer visit Religion.
defacto7
(13,485 posts)This is no safe haven. What safe haven disallows free discourse or allows discourse at a cost? It's a contradiction of terms.
Either we need to have a safe place to speak freely or it's just another filing cabinet for comments and a shooting gallery for the passive aggressive.
We have done pretty well keeping the tide as far as being civil. As far as I'm concerned, this is the number one most civil group on the site. Why would we just let the annoyed repaint the walls? I say ignore and be civil and the hell with the games they play. I honestly don't give a damn what they do. If there is any "doing" that will make this right, it' would be a change in the system that allows them to play gods little helpers where it's not their business. But that won't happen.
So, just get used to the laughter in the background and ignore it.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)and maybe those who do want to engage on it, take it over to some external site, or FB group or whatever for the very real, very human process of venting, which I can totally understand, that will leave the material here pretty bullet-proof alert-wise.
Take away the toy, and the squabbles will stop. If by no other mechanism than simply not having a toy to fight over.
mr blur
(7,753 posts)AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)But we have the same enforcement tools they have. If such activities interest you.
I find juries are amenable to good arguments, and real issues about actually objectionable content.
Edit: Substituting over for about, as over suggested an either-or proposition.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I was hoping that we might consider burying the hatchet, so to speak, (preferably underground, and not IN someone) but it looks like that's not a broadly appealing option, AND as we can see in this very thread, the hostile alerts will continue, so.
Here's what I'm doing. I'm using alert too. I see a post out there that violates TOS/DU standards, I'm pushing that sucker, and I'm making a calm, reasonable case for it. They want to root around in here, fine. I will do the same in response. I encourage all of you to do so as well. It takes a few, but when people get near 3-4 hides, I notice a violent shift through the 5 stages of denial, and then the poster's demeanor calms considerably. So, I suppose, it does work in a way.
So that means, if you don't want to get hit in response, I suggest dropping the meta in this venue. In fact, I recommend dropping it anyway, as some posters have expressed above that it is a significant turn-off for the forum. Let's not shit where we eat.
But I am nothing if not honest, so I wanted you to all know (and them as well, hiya ) that I will use the alert/jury system as intended against appropriate posts, regardless of the venue they choose to conceal it in. (And I know I am not alone in this) Which means, we can hardly expect them to stop either, so... all's fair in love and war.
In the past, I never used the feature, because I prefer for shitty posts to be visible, but since we are clearly getting hit, and hosts in other venues aren't doing their jobs, fine. People want to play games, I play to win.
Please give pause before posting meta. Please. It is not my intent to provoke bystander casualties, but they were already doing it anyway so... try to minimize your target profile.
rexcat
(3,622 posts)I do agree with using the alert/jury system since some of their post appear to be as inappropriate as they feel ours are. Framing the issue is very important and not that difficult to do when giving reason to alert.
frogmarch
(12,153 posts)I can bar troublemakers, just like we can here in A&A. But at home I have the authority to shoo away eavesdroppers to keep them from trying to silence my friends and me every time the eavesdroppers overhear something weve said about Christianity, or any other religion, that the eavesdroppers disagree with or consider offensive. A&A isnt really a safe haven, any more than my home would be if the law allowed anyone who felt like it to spy on me to make sure I didnt say anything about religion that they didnt like, and then report me. I read here at A&A every day, but I rarely post, since everything has to pass inspection by the religionists, and the thought of that pisses me off. Safe haven, my ass.
Would I like to post remarks to deliberately antagonize religious followers? No, but I dont want to feel as if I have to cow-tow to them by avoiding saying anything that might rub them the wrong way.
Edited to make more sense.