Being divorced and having moved so far away from family and friends I find
myself in this predicament far too often.
Another (former)relative has passed away. My 1st husband's Uncle. He was such a wonderful hard working family loving man.
A pig farmer, father of 3 strapping young men, devoted and loyal husband, terrific friend and Uncle to all he knew.
Frank understood me. He listened to me when I needed an ear not a judge. He loved me unconditionally and accepted me into the huge family that was my husband's.
All that changes somewhat when divorce happens. I no longer am a part of that loving family. Some were so judgemental (bible thumpin' christians). Some just totally disowned me for divorcing.
Uncle Frank I will miss you always. You loved me, you listened, you laughed and I know I saw a tear once in a while. You were a great Father to your sons and a most wonderful Husband to your wife of nearly 60 years.
I am thankful that you didn't suffer a long and painful passing.
I wish I could attend your funeral because I would be there.
I'll mourn in my own way and celebrate the man I knew in my heart to be one of the best ever put on this earth.
I'm too ill to drive anywhere and it's a 6.5 hour drive. My driving privileges have been restricted temporarily due to illness and honestly I just couldn't do it.
I'll send a card with a note, make a donation to a charity of the family's choosing.
Rest in sweet peace dear Uncle Frank.
Thank you for saving my life more than once. I have the strength to go on when I remember your words to me in my times of distress.
I am going to miss you. It's different now. Before, I knew you were there even if you were far away, now I know you're gone. My world is different.
Y'think maybe he and my former father-in-law might be fishing in that big stream and catching some really big ones? I'd like to think so.
Back to bed I go .. perchance to dream of a Man I was so blessed to love and be loved by.
good night friends.
aA
kesha
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It's clear that Frank was very special to you and very loved by you.
Don't feel bad about missing his funeral. You are mourning him and celebrating him. That's all that matters.
Sending a card is also very sweet.
Again, I'm so sorry for the loss of your loved one. 
I just lost my ex-sister-in-law to Leukemia. She was only 41 and left my two ex-nieces. She was like a second sister to me, and I missed her so much after my divorce.
She quietly stood up for me when she didn't have to, and I will always be grateful.
I am sorry for your loss.
you put it so well when you said:
"Before, I knew you were there even if you were far away, now I know you're gone. My world is different."
and i'm so sorry.
take care, my friend. i hope you do see him in your dreams.
perhaps without the "romantic" aspect:
man. May all of those memories comfort you and help ease the sadness of your loss.
rest easy, uncle frank, and peace to all those who loved you