My niece's husband was just killed in a

[murielm99]

snowmobiling accident. He was thirty-nine. She is left with three minor children now.

Prayers and good thoughts, if you can spare them.

[mahina]

1. So sorry to read this.

[Hokie]

2. That's terrible

My thoughts go to her and her family.

[in2herbs]

3. Sorry this happened. I hope the widow will have support (moral) while raising their three

children. HRC was right, it takes a village to raise a child(ren.)

[thinkingagain]

4. That's very sad

Prayers and good thoughts for all.

[LisaM]

5. I am very sorry.

What a terrible thing to have to go through.

[FM123]

6. I am so sorry.

Yes, I will send positive and healing thoughts your way. My love and sympathy to your whole family.

[Nay]

7. How awful! I do hope that she has friends and family who can make

her and her kids not worry about the immediate day-to-day stuff during this horrible time.

[democrank]

8. So very sorry

[hermetic]

9. Oh, how awful

What a shock that must have been for all. So very sorry. Certainly sending loving thoughts your way and for the children.

[murielm99]

10. We have had plenty of young widows

in my family. I was widowed at twenty-seven. My oldest daughter was widowed at thirty-five. That is her cousin's age. I hope we can help.

[stopdiggin]

17. that family will need

some alone time to just be "nuclear" .. and some support time (because the load can seem crushing at first). Consider some "outings" for the children (sans mom) .. when they are ready. And vice versa for Mom. If you're in a position to fill some roll .. try to walk that line between "space" and "support."

And my heart to all of you.

[Danmel]

11. I'm so sorry

[StevieM]

12. I am so sorry.

Such a terrible tragedy.

[Fla Dem]

13. Oh how terrible. You never know when they walk out that door. Hug them close.

I hope with the love and support of family and friends, your niece will be able to be strong for her children now and going forward. It will be so difficult.

And a hug goes out to you as well, as I am sure you have a heavy heart and feeling much grief for your niece.

[creeksneakers2]

14. Prayers

[MLAA]

15. So sorry ✨💖

[NurseJackie]

16. I'm so sorry to hear this...

[GreenPartyVoter]

18. I am so very sorry!

[Butterflylady]

19. So so sorry for your neice

I know what she is going through. Lost my husband in auto accident 44 years ago that left me with 5 children to raise. All you can do is to be there for her. It will be tough but she will get thru it for her children's sake and for herself. I'm sure she has a loving family.

[gademocrat7]

20. Condolences to you and your family.

Praying for you all.

[cate94]

21. I'm so very sorry.

Sending prayers and love.

[yaesu]

22. My condolences. I was friends to the son of the areas only snowmobile dealer back in the 70's

we got to try out all the new models every winter. We did some crazy things with those Sky-doos & looking back I'm very surprised I wasn't seriously hurt or worse. Another person I knew & fished his trout pond for years died while crossing that very same pond with a snowmobile & broke through the ice.

[skylucy]

23. So very sorry.

[Peacetrain]

24. Prayers tonight for your family

[slumcamper]

25. SO sorry!

Please know that we are with you all.

Is there a place, e.g., GoFundMe--or better, YouCaring (which takes no fee)--where we can contribute?

It really helped my daughter and my grandkids when we lost their dad in a sudden accident.

[2naSalit]

26. ...

[oldtime dfl_er]

27. Very sorry

Words cannot express.

[Stuart G]

28. So very sorry.

[brer cat]

29. I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

Sending prayers your way.

[polmaven]

30. So very sorry!

[redwitch]

31. How tragic! Your poor niece!

And those poor kids! Prayers for strength for all. Please let us know if there is a fundraising effort to help them.

[ehrnst]

32. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and them.

[CaptainTruth]

33. Oh Lord ... I'm so sorry...

[BadgerMom]

34. Terrible news.

Sorry to hear it. I hope for healing for her and her children.

[TEB]

35. Awful

Prayers sent and good thoughts

[mfcorey1]

36. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

[pazzyanne]

37. Condolences to you, your niece, and her three children.

Keeping you all in my prayers.

[vishnura]

38. My condolences you his family.

[dlk]

39. I'm very sorry for your and your family's loss

[Aussie105]

40. Thoughts and prayers, by the truck load.

Yeah.

Male, 39, risk taking, adrenalin rush sport, no thought to personal responsibility or consequences if things go wrong.

It's all far too common.

Wake up guys, a simple 'No, too risky, not doing it!' style caution needed.

[Above not meant as a criticism. Just a heads up to all the young male heads of households out there. ]

Watched the televised service for all those who died in the Australian bush fires.
Row of lit candles, one for each death.
Among them were the 3 American crew of a water bomber.

The service brought tears to my eyes.

Watching the relatives lay flowers brought home how many lives these deaths affect.

Thoughts and prayers out to all those, especially to the relatives of those Americans who were here to help.

[murielm99]

42. You are right in your description.

"Male, 39...." That was him, all right.

I am not judging. It is tragic either way. Thanks for your response. I am not the least bit offended.

[Aussie105]

43. Thank you.

That tear in my eye just came back again . . .

[FakeNoose]

41. This is tragic, and unexplicable ... there are no words

I'm sad for your niece, and especially for the three youngsters.
Family and friends must come through for them now.
I'm sorry for loss!

[Aussie105]

44. When my mother died

unexpected grief overcame me and I sat in the darkness for a long time.

When my father died years later, the unexpected grief came back and once again I sat in darkness.

When my son died the grief came back, multiplied many times. I sat in that now familiar darkness once again.

If anyone tried to help me, I do not remember. But I am thankful to those that did.

BUT this is different. Three minor children, a niece who is burdened with grief, housework chores to be done, kids to be readied for school, meals to be prepared, bills to be paid. A shoulder to cry on, or just human company in the emptiness.

Please help her as much as you can.

[murielm99]

64. I just spoke to my nephew

and my youngest daughter. We're having a celebration of life for him Saturday. He and his youngest son, who just turned nine, share the same birthday. Every time that child has a birthday, he will remember his daddy.

[Sea Turtle]

45. ((((HUGS))))

I am so sorry to hear this. Will pray for your family right now.

[IronLionZion]

46. Sorry for your loss

[ChiTownDenny]

47. OMG!

That's terrible.

[Scarsdale]

48. How very sad.

Going out to have fun, and never coming home again. Deepest sympathy to the entire family. What a tragic loss of a young husband and father.

[sdfernando]

49. OMG! I'm so sorry this happened!

That family will need lots of support and love.

I’m not a religious person but I’m sending healing energy their way.

[AllyCat]

50. Oh dear, how tragic.

Please send my heartfelt wishes for healing for them as the time comes.

[Ilsa]

51. I'm so sorry.

[Demovictory9]

52. ..

[treefarmers]

53. I'm so sorry.

I can't imagine the pain you and your family is going through. So sad.

[onecaliberal]

54. I am so sorry.

[CaptYossarian]

55. That's so tragic. Such a young family too.

Condolences to you and your sister.

[sheshe2]

56. I am so very sorry Muriel

My thoughts are with you and yours.

[Alliepoo]

57. So very sorry. My sincere condolences to your niece

The children and your entire family.

[3catwoman3]

58. Something I learned from my mom, after my brother died...

...way too young at age 23, was that she wished people had not been hesitant to talk about him because that showed her that he was remembered. After a death, people are often reluctant to bring up the person who is gone out of fear of “making you sad.”

Her explanation was that she could not possibly be any sadder than she already was, and she preferred to talk about him rather than skirt the issue.

So, when friends and family ask your niece if there is anything they can do, if it feels right to her, she can say something along the line of, “Don’t be afraid to share your memories.”

Wishing all of you strength.

[mzmolly]

59. So very sorry

for your loss.

[RT Atlanta]

60. Im so sorry

Sending a hug and positive energy to your niece, her children and all of their family for guidance and strength.

[No Vested Interest]

61. Yes, your family has had a larger than average share of unexpected, young deaths.

I recall your shock and sadness when your son-in-law died unexpectedly, about 2 years ago, I would think.
Now to be visited with another family tragedy, as well as your own young widowhood, seems overwhelming.

Thank God and goodness you care and can share, both from your own experience and from simple empathy, your strength and coping skills.

Yes, I can spare some prayers and thoughts; added to list of those who in such need.

[murielm99]

62. Thank you,

No Vested Interest, and everyone else. This thread is a great comfort. We are moving along, and we are all trying to help her and her children in our various ways.

DU is a great family, even during the divisive days of the primary.

[Marthe48]

63. Such terrible news

Your family must be stunned. Sending healing thoughts.