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UrbScotty

(23,980 posts)
Thu Oct 1, 2020, 01:07 AM Oct 2020

Mom's obituary

I started writing it a few weeks ago, when it was clear that she wasn't going to be with us much longer. I thought about some of the things by which I wanted people to remember her. I mentioned some of these things during my last conversations with her last week; I wanted her to know the impact she had.

I didn't just want people to know that she died - I wanted people to know that she lived.

https://obits.mlive.com/obituaries/grandrapids/obituary.aspx?n=karen-ann-urbanowski&pid=196869626&fhid=10156

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DarthDem

(5,255 posts)
4. Beautiful and I'm So Very Sorry for Your Loss
Thu Oct 1, 2020, 01:28 AM
Oct 2020

Your mom was clearly a wonderful person. My very best wishes to you in this difficult time.

Karadeniz

(22,516 posts)
5. Beautiful testimony to a life well-lived! Thank you for mentioning Phoebe... that says it all about
Thu Oct 1, 2020, 02:30 AM
Oct 2020

Her big heart!

pazzyanne

(6,555 posts)
6. May your beautiful memories comfort you during this time of grief.
Thu Oct 1, 2020, 02:51 AM
Oct 2020

Sending sincere condolences for you and your family.

renate

(13,776 posts)
7. She sounds so kind, devoted, and loving
Thu Oct 1, 2020, 02:53 AM
Oct 2020

I’m so sorry for your loss and so glad you had such a lovely mother.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(25,856 posts)
10. How lovely. Thank you for sharing.
Thu Oct 1, 2020, 03:32 AM
Oct 2020

Your mom and I were born the same year, so I can very much identify with her.

And I'm old enough now that I read the obits in my local paper faithfully. A week ago I saw that someone I used to work with at the local hospital died. She and I weren't close, and I hadn't seen her for a decade, but she was likewise my age and so it struck home.

orleans

(34,051 posts)
11. wonderful obituary
Thu Oct 1, 2020, 04:03 AM
Oct 2020

especially with those personalized asides about correcting grammar and how she would remind us that now is a good time to plant bulbs.

i'm really sorry for your loss.

(and what is a midwestern goodbye?)

(i googled. here's what i found https://www.theodysseyonline.com/9-stages-of-goodbye-midwest/9-the-window-wave

UrbScotty

(23,980 posts)
15. When I was younger, Mom would take me along to visit with some of her friends
Thu Oct 1, 2020, 01:39 PM
Oct 2020

...from church, school, etc. Just when I thought we were about to go home (or go on our next errand), she would stay around and chat for a while longer.

At least I learned the importance of being patient!

orleans

(34,051 posts)
16. so... do you do the midwestern goodbye now?
Fri Oct 2, 2020, 01:02 AM
Oct 2020

it had me thinking back to when i was a kid--seems my mom and older relatives all did that, and i guess i do something very similar.

KT2000

(20,577 posts)
12. Really good obituary
Thu Oct 1, 2020, 05:31 AM
Oct 2020

and I am sure she would be proud of you for writing it. It's not an easy task. Peace to you.

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