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Mojorabbit

(16,020 posts)
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 12:12 PM Dec 2013

My husband killed himself tues

He had had bypass surgery the last week of Aug and just was never the same. It was as though he was a shell of himself. He got up while I was sleeping and I found him in the morning. I have family here from all over but I feel like this is all some sort of dream. I am sad. I am angry. I want to be alone. I don't want to be alone.

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My husband killed himself tues (Original Post) Mojorabbit Dec 2013 OP
I'm really sorry. In_The_Wind Dec 2013 #1
I am so sorry for your loss. n/t PoliticAverse Dec 2013 #2
I'm also sorry for you loss. Hang in there. Scuba Dec 2013 #3
Ohhhh, no ... Mojo polly7 Dec 2013 #4
Oh Mojorabbit. I am so sorry for your loss. Autumn Dec 2013 #5
OMG libodem Dec 2013 #6
so sorry kanda Dec 2013 #7
Mojorabbit I am SO sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to type auntAgonist Dec 2013 #8
Very sorry for your loss. 47of74 Dec 2013 #9
So sorry. applegrove Dec 2013 #10
That is KC Dec 2013 #11
Thank you all for your condolences. Mojorabbit Dec 2013 #12
We're all here for you. 47of74 Dec 2013 #16
my heart goes out to you orleans Dec 2013 #13
I wish I could help passiveporcupine Dec 2013 #14
I'm so sorry for your loss Mojorabbit. May you find peace and comfort in remembering when times were livetohike Dec 2013 #15

polly7

(20,582 posts)
4. Ohhhh, no ... Mojo
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 12:23 PM
Dec 2013

My deepest condolences for the loss of your husband.

I went through just the same circumstances with my Dad a few years ago, and understand the shock, confusion and agony.

I'm so, so sorry.



libodem

(19,288 posts)
6. OMG
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 01:41 PM
Dec 2013

There just are not any words to express how deeply sorry I am for your loss. It takes a little piece of you. Don't let it be a very big piece.

kanda

(175 posts)
7. so sorry
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 02:11 PM
Dec 2013

Mojorabbit, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace in the coming days and months of the fond memories you made together. Be kind to yourself and seek help and comfort from loving friends and family that surround you.

auntAgonist

(17,252 posts)
8. Mojorabbit I am SO sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to type
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 04:41 PM
Dec 2013

words that would comfort you or pretend to know how you feel. Know this though, my heart and thoughts are with you at this terrible time.

Please, message me if you need a friend.

I'm so sorry ...


kesha.

KC

(1,995 posts)
11. That is
Sun Dec 22, 2013, 04:32 AM
Dec 2013

so sad and awful that you had to be the one that found him. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this, but glad that you have family and friends there.

Mojorabbit

(16,020 posts)
12. Thank you all for your condolences.
Sun Dec 22, 2013, 04:18 PM
Dec 2013

I still have a ton of family here but everyone should be gone by wed. We had the wake yesterday and it was lovely.

orleans

(34,051 posts)
13. my heart goes out to you
Mon Dec 23, 2013, 02:50 AM
Dec 2013

i'm so deeply sorry for what you're going through
and for what your husband must have been going through

it sounds like something with that surgery didn't go right or put him in a state of depression.

what a tragedy--so much sadness.
if you don't want to be alone then don't. ask someone to stay, or go to their house. (someone who will be there if you want to talk, someone to take care of the little things--shopping, cooking, getting the mail, etc.)

and we're here.

go slow--take it easy--

passiveporcupine

(8,175 posts)
14. I wish I could help
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 07:24 PM
Dec 2013

I'm not sure anything can compare to the loss of someone this way. All loss is painful, but this is a shock to the system and brings in lots of confusing feelings. I know what you are going through will get easier with time, but right now is just too raw...too difficult. I can only offer hugs.

livetohike

(22,140 posts)
15. I'm so sorry for your loss Mojorabbit. May you find peace and comfort in remembering when times were
Thu Dec 26, 2013, 04:20 PM
Dec 2013

good for you and your husband. May he rest in peace :hugs:.

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