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CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
Sun Mar 2, 2014, 09:23 AM Mar 2014

(sigh) The second day of Women's History Month and a video post about asking girls for

sex has to be locked.

Bad enough that it is there at all, but really, folks, is this any way to celebrate women's history?

I hope we are not in for a drumbeat against women during March...but we have to keep vigilant...

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CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
2. I couldn't bring myself to watch it...
Sun Mar 2, 2014, 09:41 AM
Mar 2014

My husband says I go on DU and am pissed off for the rest of the day...well, a stick in the eye will do that to a person...that post was one of the first things I saw this morning...

 

pintobean

(18,101 posts)
3. Maybe it would have helped
Sun Mar 2, 2014, 10:10 AM
Mar 2014

if he had explained his reason for posting it. I give him the benefit of the doubt because of this:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/125537310

Also, the post was hidden by a jury decision, not locked by the hosts.

I'm editing to add a link to the hidden post that is referenced in the OP, just in case anyone wants to see it. It hasn't been linked in this thread yet, and as time passes, it will be harder to find. It has already rolled off of GD's first page.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10024589138

seaglass

(8,171 posts)
4. Yes it would have helped to add commentary and agree with you on the other point too. Though
Sun Mar 2, 2014, 10:18 AM
Mar 2014

I watched the first video and part of the 2nd and I didn't see anything worthy of discussion.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
5. I did watch the other video that Pintobean posted and I thought it was
Sun Mar 2, 2014, 10:37 AM
Mar 2014

okay. I had no unease with seeing the post, so I clicked on it right away. This one looked very different to me.

I agree about having a brief sentence about what you would be about to see if you clicked on that video. As it was, what was displayed looked depressingly familiar in other contexts. For those of us who a a bit gun shy due to past experiences, it seemed like another hit.

seaglass

(8,171 posts)
6. I viewed the hidden video and the one that went with it, a woman asking 100 men. I'm not
Sun Mar 2, 2014, 10:45 AM
Mar 2014

sure what thoughtful discussion would have come from it.

When I first saw it, I thought the same as you - someone trying to push buttons.

BainsBane

(53,032 posts)
9. I thought it was sad how many women felt they had to say "sorry"
Mon Mar 3, 2014, 01:48 AM
Mar 2014

for turning him down. I liked the one who looked at him like WTF and then threw the drink in his face.

seaglass

(8,171 posts)
11. I noticed more the number of women who laughed at him. I still don't get what the discussion point
Mon Mar 3, 2014, 07:04 AM
Mar 2014

was on this. Clearly most of the women did not take him seriously. I'd have to view it again to see if the reactions were different from women who he asked when they were alone vs women who were with at least 1 other woman vs woman who were with a man. But it doesn't seem worthwhile. The only thing I got out of it was a lot more men would say yes to a random woman asking them if they wanted to have sex than women would say yes to a man asking. Don't think this is news.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
12. Yes, the socialization is strikingly apparent.
Mon Mar 3, 2014, 10:14 AM
Mar 2014

I wonder what percentage of women who answered with "I have a boyfriend" actually did, vs how many used the line because they know that men are mire likely to accept rejection if it is due to another man's 'claim' on the woman - but if the rejection comes from her he will not accept it and instead argue, cajole, or otherwise waste her time with whatever lameass "seduction" techniques he is desperate enough to try.

BainsBane

(53,032 posts)
8. That was posted by Jamaal510
Mon Mar 3, 2014, 01:20 AM
Mar 2014

who also posted the objectification video by Laci Greene. I would give him the benefit of the doubt. I suspect he had a good reason for posting it, and I wish he would have written some text in the OP giving it context.

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