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MissMillie

(38,545 posts)
Tue Apr 21, 2020, 03:05 PM Apr 2020

Using the Zoom App for face-time w/ Mom

The nursing home where Mom is has been VERY generous to help us get this done a couple of times every week. I can only imagine what life is like for the staff there... sick patients, fear for themselves. This on top of their regular (considerable) work load. They are not only heroes, but truly kind and generous people.

Mom looks pretty good. It is obvious that she is having trouble breathing, and she looks tired. But she looks alert. Today she was actually responding to us--at least she did when the CNA prompted her.

The report on her is that when she keeps her oxygen tube on, her oxygen levels are quite good--in the 90s. When she removes it, her level drops into the 80s. They check on her every few minutes to see that she keeps it on.

She doesn't have much of an appetite, but asks for water quite often and she is drinking it.

She sleeps a lot.

As far as sleeping and loss of appetite, the staff tells us that her body is fighting this virus, and that these symptoms are signs of that.



I don't like the way my dad looks. You can see the fear in his eyes and hear it in his voice.

I miss them both so much. Just want to wrap my arms around them and find some way to keep them safe.

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Using the Zoom App for face-time w/ Mom (Original Post) MissMillie Apr 2020 OP
What a terrible situation. Zoonart Apr 2020 #1
Thinking about you and your parents... Trueblue Texan Aug 2020 #2
Thank you for your kind thoughts MissMillie Aug 2020 #3

Zoonart

(11,844 posts)
1. What a terrible situation.
Tue Apr 21, 2020, 03:09 PM
Apr 2020

I am so sorry for what you and your folks are going through. My Dad died in a nursing home in 2016 followed by my mom in 2017 and I can only imagine what you are feeling. So very sad for everyone . Hugs.


Trueblue Texan

(2,424 posts)
2. Thinking about you and your parents...
Wed Aug 5, 2020, 07:56 AM
Aug 2020

This is such a sad times for families with sick loved ones. I'm keeping you all in my thoughts, sending healing vibes...

MissMillie

(38,545 posts)
3. Thank you for your kind thoughts
Wed Aug 5, 2020, 08:49 AM
Aug 2020

We lost Mom on 7/14.

Dad had been living w/o her in the house for over a year, and he seems to be doing OK. I somehow think that every now and then, when he's alone, he has a melt-down. He's very stoic whenever I see him.

As for me, I'm having a bad day today, but it does help to know that people care. Thanks.

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