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1monster
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March 16, 2016
"To Men I Love, About Men Who Scare Me"
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So to the generally well-intentioned men in my life, please consider this: no matter what I accomplish or how self-assured I am feeling, the aforementioned dickhead bouncers of the world will still believe they have a right to demand my time and attention, even when I want to be alone. They will still insist I be polite and cheerful, even while they make me uncomfortable and afraid. They will still comment about my body and allude to sexual violence, and then berate me for being "stuck up" if I don't receive it with a sense of humor. They will still choose to reinforce their dominance with a reminder that they could hurt me if they wanted to, and that I should somehow be grateful if they don't. This has made me defensive. It has put me more on my guard than I would like to be.
Decent male humans, this is not your fault, but it also does not have nothing to do with you. If a woman is frosty or standoffish or doesn't laugh at your joke, consider the notion that maybe she is not an uptight, humorless bitch, but rather has had experiences that are outside your realm of understanding, and have adversely colored her perception of the world. Consider that while you're just joking around, a woman might actually be doing some quick mental math to see if she's going to have to hide in a fucking bathroom stall and call someone to come help her, like I did three days ago.
Please adjust your mindset and your words accordingly.
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So to the generally well-intentioned men in my life, please consider this: no matter what I accomplish or how self-assured I am feeling, the aforementioned dickhead bouncers of the world will still believe they have a right to demand my time and attention, even when I want to be alone. They will still insist I be polite and cheerful, even while they make me uncomfortable and afraid. They will still comment about my body and allude to sexual violence, and then berate me for being "stuck up" if I don't receive it with a sense of humor. They will still choose to reinforce their dominance with a reminder that they could hurt me if they wanted to, and that I should somehow be grateful if they don't. This has made me defensive. It has put me more on my guard than I would like to be.
Decent male humans, this is not your fault, but it also does not have nothing to do with you. If a woman is frosty or standoffish or doesn't laugh at your joke, consider the notion that maybe she is not an uptight, humorless bitch, but rather has had experiences that are outside your realm of understanding, and have adversely colored her perception of the world. Consider that while you're just joking around, a woman might actually be doing some quick mental math to see if she's going to have to hide in a fucking bathroom stall and call someone to come help her, like I did three days ago.
Please adjust your mindset and your words accordingly.
March 14, 2016
Trumped starring the Producers of the Producers
Jimmy Kimmel had some really brilliant writers working on this one
March 13, 2016
For the first time since I've lived here (since 1982) I just had a
political canvasser ring my doorbell. A man and his eight year old son, from a small town fifteen miles away was canvassing for Bernie in my neighborhood. He said he was at the Bernie rally in Gainesville and that it was fantastic.
I asked him how it was going regarding Bernie supporters in the neighborhood. He said it was mixed. I'll take that as good news since I live in a very red part of the state.
Go, Bernie, go!
March 13, 2016
Bernie, Bernie, Bernie is the one for me...
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