April 27, 2023

UPDATE on my Mom #4

She is out of Allegheny General Hospital (last evening) and in a rehab facility 15 minutes from my home. The one just over the hill from me I didn't like. I had a bad feeling about it and as I toured it I saw no patients in common areas and when I did peer into rooms patients asleep with mouths open. smell of urine lingered in the halls.

The place I had her place in I saw patients in the lobby, common areas and in the halls cleaning was taking place as I toured and I had a better feeling. I hope it is the correct thing to do. Some people kind of indicated I should have had her in the same town I was in but If I still worked in the office it is near that office town and I can be there quickly.

She has a long road to recovery and at times she is really clear headed wanting to make sure my sister is able to "take over her car" My sister got a loan for the remaining amount my mom owed on her car. She is getting a 2017 car with less than 40,000 miles for under $10,000.

My husband got his car fix so I have my car back. I start work tomorrow but once they closed out my constant FMLA I might need to apply for intermittent FMLA for meetings and moral support issues.

Today I filled out paperwork and step away so my mom would start speaking more for herself. I get her confusion has made it difficult to convey her needs especially when she has pain. I understand because I have been with her for everyday of her hospitalization, but I fear my sister was right and I shouldn't have been there everyday. But with everything she had been through -I still believe she needed me there.

Thank you all again for the support and safe place to vent.

April 27, 2023

The Late Olivia Newton-John and Dolly Parton Dueting on Jolene

I came across this and had to share. 2 amazing talents and role models to me.

April 24, 2023

As much as I am Glad Tuck'ems got Canned I am wondering if Rupert just cost himself more money?

I got the news today about Tuck'ems getting fired and I was happy-sorry for taking delight in this but how dangerous and traitorous he is to this country he deserves it- I am finding myself wondering if Rupert didn't see his stupidity. especially in my Mom's hospital room.

Fox and Rupert has the whole smartmatic law suit ahead of them. They already lost $700 + million. How much more will they lose in this next lawsuit?

Also Tuck'em is scorn... He just may go scorch earth on Fox and Rupert...

guess Rupert isn't that smart.

April 5, 2023

Text message scam?

I am sitting by my mother's bedside dealing with her issues when I keep getting text stating. I AM contacting you about your divorce papers. Please contact me if you are currently divorce from and it gives my husband's name.
Is this a scam?

April 2, 2023

UPDATE #3 on my mom

First off thank you for your continue support and well wishes and prayers.

My mother has turn the curb in a sense and is doing better. She is alert and they are working on discharging her. The infection has affected her kidneys and she is on a dialysis schedule. They are hoping her kidneys will wake up and start functioning again but if they do not with in 3 months she will be on dialysis for remainder of her life.

March 29, 2023

Hoax being called in to PA schools.

In my mom's hospital room and see local news breaking in stating multiple calls from a computer generated calls calling in active shooters in various schools. 2 in Pittsburgh but reporter is coming in all over the region. Seems the 2 in Pittsburgh are catholic school.

March 26, 2023

UPdate on my Mother #2

https://democraticunderground.com/100217741858

First let me continue to say I am grateful for the space to vent/ talk thru my feelings and situation. I am grateful for the well wishes and love being sent my families way. I am sorry my lack of response to all your kind words. just not enough time-which is a poor excuse But they are so kind.

So using a by pap and dialysis machine they got my mom in a more stable situation. However, it is temporary. The infection has done the damage. Her kidneys are not working. They have given her dialysis everyday this pass week and they are hoping this will eventually get the kidneys working again. They keep telling my sister and I next 2 weeks will be key. Add to this issue They cannot find the source of infection they beileve it the hip which is giving her in so much pain but she is closures phobic they can't do an MRI to confirm due to the fact her kidneys aren't working she can't be sedated because the kidneys can't filter out the medication.

Add to this they are limited in pain medication they can provide my mother for the pain again due to kidney's not working and due to the fact her kidney's aren't working she isn't a candidate of surgery to attempt to get the infection cleaned out and either repair or replace the replacement hip. This means after the 6 weeks of IV drugs she would be on life long oral antibiotics which causes it's own issues due to side effects.

We had a meeting with some of the doctors and Paolovite care which laid all this out. They don't want us to make decisions yet but to lay out all information. My sister hasn't been seeing my mom Day in and out like I have these pass 3 weeks. So when she and my mom got to AGH( Alleghey General Hospital) she was basically unconscious from the ride and was that way until she went back to her state for a few days ( due to work) she came back on Wednesday and my Mom is slowly waking up at times so she thinks my Mom is on the mend. So naturally she isn't fully understanding the meeting and all being said but as she stay with mom and gave me a "break" so I could take care of my mother's bills and attempt to rest she is seeing how my mom has moments of consciousness and then sleeps. This afternoon she is starting to understand the shit my mom has been handed.

We will have another meeting in 2 weeks and the one of the doctors explained to my sister how the next 2 weeks will show if my mom can make any sense of recovery with the kidneys.

Now if it was just 1 of these issues we can see my mom recovering but with all of this --I am too the point where I understand what needs to be done. My Mom's parents and 2 brothers died from various forms of cancer and those decisions had been easier but this just feels wrong to just give up even though it is the right this to do.

Some humor: during the meeting I looked at my sister and said to me the Bybpap and dialysis is basically taking place of the ventilator my mother didn't want to be on. I also said "You are the most like mom. Personality and view points. If you are in mom's position and your daughters are in our position what would you be thinking"

My sister : "Oh, I will be Mad as Hell and I'd be Haunting everyone one of you." But a Half breath later "I can't give up on Mom."

I just wish FMLA had been passed with pay. Would help a lot for me thankfully some of my Aunts and cousins have helped a little. I am not looking for anything but perhaps a Senator or Rep will see it and think about some sort of reform to allow 1/2 pay or something for a few weeks anything could be helpful.

March 20, 2023

UPDATE on my Mom.

First off: I want to thank all of you for the love and support and prayers and well wishes/healing vibes: https://democraticunderground.com/100217738814
I do apologize I couldn't keep up with the thread.

I went to the Pittsburgh Hospital my mom was transferred to and it was a shock to see her. When I left her on Friday She was talking to me insisting I go home and get rest. My sister was an hours from getting into town. Today all she was doing was sleeping. She barely reacted to anyone. Her kidneys are failing. Potassium is up. Allegheny General Hosptial received no information from the other hospital. So they are starting from scratch. They knew she had an infection in the heart (staph.)

My sister keeps deferring to me on procedures and stuff she didn't understand. which is fine. My sister called and place a doctor on speaker phone wanting me to answer the Doctor's question. They wanted to move my Mom to a unit that is a step below ICU to give my mom better care they also wanted to put her on a by pap since her O2 is at 75% and CO2 is in her blood.

On Sat the 4th of March when she was still able to talk and think somewhat clearly- she told a doctor she didn't want to be on a ventilator or CPR done. I am trying to honor those directives but still give her a fighting chance.

This may be all in vain but I feel like I must give her a chance. My sister and I already lost our father and it may be selfish but I don't know what else to do.

She is 84 and was a smoker. I think I am coming to terms that this is probably her slipping but I just don't know what to do...

March 18, 2023

Can Gov DeSantis block an arrest taking place in FL for Trump?

My husband was asking today. If Trump doesn't go to New York to turn himself in. Could Ron prevent an arrest warrant from executed in Florida?

March 18, 2023

Mom is sick and has been in the hospital.

Earlier in the month I talked about my mom being in the hospital with RSV and Pneumonia. Well, I have been by my mother's side while she has been in the hospital (her local) getting worse. It was discovered she had a Staph infection which was effecting her heart and she was developing a Kidney issue.

While in the hospital they had been trying to do physical Therapy with her daily and would increasingly be more and more painful. she couldn't even get a bed bath without being so painful. I have been doing my best to be her advocate and keep the various diagnosis straight. Thursday Ortho came did x-rays on her hip and pulled fluid from her hip. Yesterday the ortho doctors came up said staph infection was in her hip and her hip replacement (which she got in 99) was failing her. She was frustrated with various Diagnosis. she sick and miserable wants to go to Allegheny. I demand she goes there.

We also have a cousin ( and her Godson) who is head of one of the departments in Allegheny General. He also thru her local Doctor has been keeping an eye on her.

Hospital is all nasty and is like well, it isn't going to be instant, and it could be 2 or 4 days before they have a bed to transfer her and Administration coming in CYA the hospital that are just chasing symptoms and not viewing and treating the whole and getting ahead of it.. I call the cousin with my mom on speaker phone. We tell him everything she has gone thru and asked his help. long story short she was being loaded into an ambulance at 10:30 pm to be taken to Pittsburgh. My sister came in from the state she lives in to give me a break. she followed the Ambulance down and has been with her since. I feel guilty being home while she's there, but everyone is saying take a break.

Today they did x-rays and the Doctor came in saying they didn't find infection in her hip. They see part of the hip is failing and preventing her from moving and walking. The primary concern is the staff infection which is not only in the heart but also effecting her kidneys.

May I please ask you to send some healing vibes my mother's way. I will be at her side at Alleghany but will need to call my work place since I originally thought she would be discharge from the hospital on the 10th.

Thank you for letting me vent.