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OldHippieChick

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3. Doubt anyone can get inside his warped mind conclusively. My

Reply to ProudLib72 (Original post)

Thu Feb 8, 2018, 04:49 PM

Feb 2018

guess would be that the wedding vow cemented his thought that she was now his "property" - his to do with as he wished. He could also have such self-loathing that he feels contempt for anyone willing to marry him.

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Something I don't understand about the Porter abuse [View all] ProudLib72 Feb 2018 OP

It's a shock tactic that lets the victim know how it's going to be from now on. WhiskeyGrinder Feb 2018 #1

Ownership?.. HipChick Feb 2018 #2

Doubt anyone can get inside his warped mind conclusively. My OldHippieChick Feb 2018 #3

And harder, psychologically, for them to leave him. n/t demmiblue Feb 2018 #6

Ok, if I may take a sickening line of thought ProudLib72 Feb 2018 #13

Remember that marriage vows used to consistently include women OldHippieChick Feb 2018 #14

Maybe some kind of extreme reaction to (edited) writerJT Feb 2018 #4

I've heard of the same thing happening in other abuse cases - The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2018 #5

weddings are stressful times, and that can bring out the worst in people. unblock Feb 2018 #7

"The prize is finally mine-- I won it; the papers are signed..." LanternWaste Feb 2018 #8

It's the typical pattern zipplewrath Feb 2018 #9

So he was able to control himself (to some extent) till the wedding ProudLib72 Feb 2018 #12

Psychological ownership start-date. nt. NCTraveler Feb 2018 #10

Yes, and physical ownership. NT enough Feb 2018 #11