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mnhtnbb

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124. It's apparently become a phenomenon known as "grey divorce".

Tue Mar 20, 2018, 07:18 AM

Mar 2018

I'd been thinking about this seriously for about 7 or 8 years and finally was pushed over the threshold to make the decision.

My soon to be ex is a psychiatrist who would confirm that people become more like what they have always been as they age.
In the case of my ex, he became more narcissistic and less willing to consider my wants and needs. It was turning into
everything being about him. I just reached a point where I couldn't do it any more.

I have relocated to an apartment in the same region, but definitely wanted to get out of town. Didn't want to run into him.
Whether I'll stay here, continue to rent, move to another state (or even out of the country, which I'm considering), or buy something after the divorce is final and finances are sorted out, remains to be seen.

So far, I have not regretted my decision, either.

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I am sooooo happily divorced. [View all] Kath2 Mar 2018 OP

All the Best to you, Kath. sandensea Mar 2018 #1

Thank you. Kath2 Mar 2018 #2

Good for you. Get involved in local Dem politics. Blue_true Mar 2018 #3

I am moving on. Kath2 Mar 2018 #7

You are better off without that shit! Ohiogal Mar 2018 #4

I am feeling better every minute. Kath2 Mar 2018 #8

The very best to you. You are strong! jrthin Mar 2018 #5

Sounds like congratulations are in order! rurallib Mar 2018 #6

I wish good luck and happiness for you. Ferrets are Cool Mar 2018 #9

Thank you. Kath2 Mar 2018 #11

Good vibes sweetheart! Liberal Jesus Freak Mar 2018 #10

I hope so. Kath2 Mar 2018 #12

Wishing you a wonderful future, Kath2! chuckstevens Mar 2018 #13

Good Riddance to Rubbish lunasun Mar 2018 #14

Break out the booze and have a ball! Honeycombe8 Mar 2018 #15

Scary. Kath2 Mar 2018 #19

Good luck to you NewJeffCT Mar 2018 #16

Too easy to get married. safeinOhio Mar 2018 #17

Yep. NT Abu Pepe Mar 2018 #82

Been there done that... Freedomofspeech Mar 2018 #18

I am loving life again. Kath2 Mar 2018 #21

Enjoy your much improved life! UpInArms Mar 2018 #20

Congratulations! HurricaneWarning Mar 2018 #22

Thank U. Kath2 Mar 2018 #23

The burden has been lifted, magicarpet Mar 2018 #24

Thank U. Kath2 Mar 2018 #25

Congratulations! Your long nightmare is over. Here's to you and the rest or your life, Kath2. NBachers Mar 2018 #26

You have to be careful who you fall in love with TexasBushwhacker Mar 2018 #27

Thank you so much. Kath2 Mar 2018 #32

You are smart to maintain your standards. SunSeeker Mar 2018 #34

My parents had a terrible marriage for 35 years TexasBushwhacker Mar 2018 #45

I can relate vercetti2021 Mar 2018 #51

Someone is out there for you Egnever Mar 2018 #109

Kath. I made myself a promise after my divorce. Lochloosa Mar 2018 #28

Spanish dicho, es mejor estar solo que en mala compania RestoreAmerica2020 Mar 2018 #29

Good for you. You deserve to be happy Kath2! SunSeeker Mar 2018 #30

Yes! vercetti2021 Mar 2018 #31

Freedom! lindysalsagal Mar 2018 #33

Freedom rocks. Kath2 Mar 2018 #35

It gets better every day. lindysalsagal Mar 2018 #90

I have always loved being single. Time to think. I loved being alone as applegrove Mar 2018 #36

I dumped mine 37 years ago mountain grammy Mar 2018 #37

Good for you. Kath2 Mar 2018 #38

Scary as hell, but 37 years go by in a minute. mountain grammy Mar 2018 #39

Going forward. Blue_true Mar 2018 #119

Congrats! 2left4u Mar 2018 #40

A weight is lifted. ffr Mar 2018 #41

Congratulations! Happy years ahead! Fla Dem Mar 2018 #42

Thank you. Kath2 Mar 2018 #43

I'm glad I found a good one, Kath2. raven mad Mar 2018 #44

I'm envious. SpankMe Mar 2018 #46

U an do it. Kath2 Mar 2018 #47

Congrats! nt elmac Mar 2018 #48

Yay! backtoblue Mar 2018 #49

Yes. Kath2 Mar 2018 #52

On to a better and happier life! Zambero Mar 2018 #50

Congratulations! Blue_playwright Mar 2018 #53

I will, babe. Kath2 Mar 2018 #54

I'll bet it's like a load has been lifted..... Heartstrings Mar 2018 #55

Welcome to the living single club! My marriage went off track after we had kids and my iluvtennis Mar 2018 #56

Thank you so much. Kath2 Mar 2018 #57

Much happier than had I stayed. I may have had a mental breakdown had I "stayed iluvtennis Mar 2018 #69

Congratulations on your escape bluecollar2 Mar 2018 #58

I intend to. Kath2 Mar 2018 #59

Don't do politics. It'll drive you bat shit crazy. LIVE life!!! Kajun Gal Mar 2018 #60

Congratulations! IluvPitties Mar 2018 #61

This sounds like a very recent liberation. 3catwoman3 Mar 2018 #62

Thank you so much. Kath2 Mar 2018 #64

Hell YES!!!!! gay texan Mar 2018 #63

Yes!!! Kath2 Mar 2018 #65

A song of celebration.... pbmus Mar 2018 #66

Lovely. Kath2 Mar 2018 #68

I was too! 😁 NurseJackie Mar 2018 #67

Thank you so much for your support. Kath2 Mar 2018 #71

As Emo Phillips said... BobTheSubgenius Mar 2018 #70

Best of luck LittleGirl Mar 2018 #72

Exciting life ahead for you!!!!!!!!! bluestarone Mar 2018 #73

Best of luck to you Upthevibe Mar 2018 #74

Mixed emotions, but glad you're happy with the outcome. George II Mar 2018 #75

Let freedom ring! Aristus Mar 2018 #76

Single? Well let's do this then! Blue_Tires Mar 2018 #77

I wish you a life filled with healthy love and joy from here forward. herding cats Mar 2018 #78

Ive been happily divorced for 23 years! lunatica Mar 2018 #79

Congratulations Cha Mar 2018 #80

Enjoy your space! erinlough Mar 2018 #81

Congrats on this new chapter of your life. Laffy Kat Mar 2018 #83

Congrats! You're well rid of that Turd! CousinIT Mar 2018 #84

sounds like every night (and day) is reason to celebrate! orleans Mar 2018 #85

So I went out for a bite alone at a local Italian Grill just now, & tomorrow I see my divorce lawyer mr_lebowski Mar 2018 #86

Pets are still considered property. llmart Mar 2018 #100

Let me just say that those pups LittleGirl Mar 2018 #105

A day will come when you feel relief it is over Egnever Mar 2018 #110

Life gets better. It's no bed of roses, but at least your soul is your own. ... Hekate Mar 2018 #87

I'm probably the last person qualified to comment on a thread like this DFW Mar 2018 #88

Congratulations life will get better for you as time goes on. kimbutgar Mar 2018 #89

Congratulations! I am currently separated mnhtnbb Mar 2018 #91

Sorry to hear you're going through this. Fla Dem Mar 2018 #94

That law is archaic! llmart Mar 2018 #101

Yes. It seems to prolong the inevitable. mnhtnbb Mar 2018 #122

I don't know how to answer your first question. llmart Mar 2018 #123

It's apparently become a phenomenon known as "grey divorce". mnhtnbb Mar 2018 #124

Good for you. llmart Mar 2018 #125

You got your whole life ahead of you Soxfan58 Mar 2018 #92

I cant even imagine dating a Republican RhodeIslandOne Mar 2018 #93

Freedom! lark Mar 2018 #95

Happity deeborce shenmue Mar 2018 #96

Congratulations! BillyBobBrilliant Mar 2018 #97

congrats deek Mar 2018 #98

Recently divorced myself makokun Mar 2018 #99

Free at last! Free at last! amb123 Mar 2018 #102

... Anon-C Mar 2018 #103

I'm setting me free mobeau69 Mar 2018 #104

"Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid..." Goethe Ligyron Mar 2018 #106

Is there a Drinking Liberally chapter lillypaddle Mar 2018 #107

I found one. Kath2 Mar 2018 #127

Have fun lillypaddle Mar 2018 #128

I will. Kath2 Mar 2018 #129

I am glad you are celebrating tonight. NCTraveler Mar 2018 #108

happy for you!!! niyad Mar 2018 #111

It's too bad I can't divorce my rural family members.... Joe Nation Mar 2018 #112

Way to go Kath AZ Jim Mar 2018 #113

Congratulations!! ailsagirl Mar 2018 #114

Good! Dump that zero and get a hero! Initech Mar 2018 #115

Happily married? Saviolo Mar 2018 #116

Good riddance to bad rubbish! kimmylavin Mar 2018 #117

Congratulations! GoneOffShore Mar 2018 #118

Kudos! nt TwistOneUp Mar 2018 #120

"" I was married to a Repub, racist, sexist ass. " vkkv Mar 2018 #121

Not at all. Kath2 Mar 2018 #126