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In reply to the discussion: 86'd on Christmas Day by (ex) boyfriend [View all]realmirage
(2,117 posts)74. Sounds to me like deep down
deep down you are the one who pulled out of this relationship. You had to know it would get ugly, so why else hit the nuke button except that you sensed that this wasnt how you wanted to be spending the holiday or the rest of your life?
The brain is sometimes the last to know what the spirit always knew. My last relationship was tolerable on the surface but a living hell at its core. When it ended I was in a state of shock and fear the way a cult member is when they are at the beginning stages of deprogramming.
I thank my lucky stars about once a month that that relationship is over. Sometimes you cant see something clearly until you get distance from it and fully disconnect.
Youll be fine.
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Be true to yourself. Sounds like you were. Well done. Heal the hurt in your way and time.
IADEMO2004
Dec 2018
#6
Maybe I am being naive, but I just don't understand an outburst like that from the sister after
still_one
Dec 2018
#18
It sounds to me that deep down, you are sick of your boyfriend's shit and this was a manifestation.
TheBlackAdder
Dec 2018
#26
Sooner or later, people show you who they are and where their loyalties lie...
Wounded Bear
Dec 2018
#27
We just had Christmas without the family...to avoid our version of what you describe...
Sancho
Dec 2018
#29
Sometimes we just want to stir the pot a bit...even if we promised ourselves we wouldn't. It's ok!
UniteFightBack
Dec 2018
#33
I suspect your ex has taken back up with his ex & the fight was an excuse to dump you.
catbyte
Dec 2018
#38
If I understand correctly, you went into a family gathering with your boyfriend,
hughee99
Dec 2018
#39
In such a situation, both the (ex) boyfriend and the original poster should have excused themselves.
Texin
Dec 2018
#44
Under the guise I sending family pics to I asked all my righty family members to open air drop on
Pepsidog
Dec 2018
#47
Christmas dinner is the wrong time to argue about politics/religion. Using that event as a litmus
jalan48
Dec 2018
#49
"I stoked the fires unnecessarily. I recognize I was pushing buttons. I couldn't help it."
TexasBushwhacker
Dec 2018
#52
Well, first of all, you simply quoted a bible passage. How they interpret it is solely up ...
SWBTATTReg
Dec 2018
#66