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136. if we were all decent, we would not have these problems...

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Thu Feb 7, 2019, 06:39 PM

Feb 2019

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Yet it is within all of our powers to be decent

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I have never been on a date with a man and ended up in a hotel room [View all] malaise Feb 2019 OP

I have. Several times in my youth. demmiblue Feb 2019 #1

The convention was in the hotel I think. Could be wrong onit2day Feb 2019 #97

Her statement was the room they went into was in another hotel Cosmocat Feb 2019 #101

I agree but if I got there and changed my mind? What then? n/t Raven Feb 2019 #2

Hope the guy is one of the decent ones on this thread malaise Feb 2019 #116

Tyson was not on a date with Fairfax, according to spooky3 Feb 2019 #3

Agree...Worked a job that involved a lot of travel.. HipChick Feb 2019 #4

Same here malaise Feb 2019 #9

Was it David Spade? skypilot Feb 2019 #50

Hahaha - No n/t malaise Feb 2019 #58

Damn. skypilot Feb 2019 #59

At least finances didn't make you have to share. moriah Feb 2019 #61

Yours is a great post malaise Feb 2019 #62

Agree, even if you go with someone to their hotel to "pick up some papers" you don't go Fla Dem Feb 2019 #89

I don''t know if she has sent a signal malaise Feb 2019 #120

ouch bigtree Feb 2019 #5

Where were you when Mike Tyson needed you exboyfil Feb 2019 #6

In my field, in the 1980s, job interviews at conventions spooky3 Feb 2019 #8

I remember having a few interviews in hotel rooms xmas74 Feb 2019 #154

Have you ever on a business trip and been in the hotel of a male colleague? Hassin Bin Sober Feb 2019 #7

I've been on several trips malaise Feb 2019 #12

A date has nothing to do with being at a convention and accompanying a colleague to the hotel. Hassin Bin Sober Feb 2019 #15

I only went into colleagues rooms with others malaise Feb 2019 #17

that really shouldn't be going on dsc Feb 2019 #19

If my work tried to make me share a room with a coworker my response would be go to hell. 47of74 Feb 2019 #90

Look! Another way of saying, "She was asking for it!" Oneironaut Feb 2019 #10

+1 demmiblue Feb 2019 #14

Not only that, but building a strawman to say, "She was asking for it." Ms. Toad Feb 2019 #45

Right.....damn. AncientGeezer Feb 2019 #82

False equivalency, if Fairfax was a republican he supports an admitted sexual assaulter as leader of uponit7771 Feb 2019 #117

Irrelevant, as consent can be revoked at any point and for any reason. Marengo Feb 2019 #11

Really just wow Charlotte Little Feb 2019 #13

Every decision that a person makes, every action that a person takes avebury Feb 2019 #49

Not even relevant Charlotte Little Feb 2019 #84

There is no valid excuse for one person committing an unprovoked attack on another person avebury Feb 2019 #118

How much more are you willing to spend Charlotte Little Feb 2019 #133

I've never been on a date with a woman and ended up in a hotel room MineralMan Feb 2019 #16

Thank you brother malaise Feb 2019 #18

My pleasure. MineralMan Feb 2019 #30

You my dear brother are a gentleman malaise Feb 2019 #37

That's how my mother raised me. MineralMan Feb 2019 #44

A male friend once invited me to his room for a drink EffieBlack Feb 2019 #57

That's the point - there are gentlemen and there malaise Feb 2019 #60

This message was self-deleted by its author JudyM Feb 2019 #150

According to her statement, she went to his hotel room for the madaboutharry Feb 2019 #20

Well this coward would have received the documents malaise Feb 2019 #22

I would do the same and would have said something like: madaboutharry Feb 2019 #31

I don't trust easily malaise Feb 2019 #35

That is in fact where the situation is, and they both deserve to be heard. ooky Feb 2019 #46

So after walking in the door and kissing Bonx Feb 2019 #21

There is nothing right about it malaise Feb 2019 #25

So she should have known it was coming? maybe she even asked for it? Bonx Feb 2019 #27

Nor does it make sense (to me) that anyone would continue having any kind of contact ooky Feb 2019 #47

She says she didn't... AncientGeezer Feb 2019 #125

I have not seen that she continued contact at140 Feb 2019 #127

I saw a report on M$M where he was saying that ooky Feb 2019 #131

Motels always make me horny. panader0 Feb 2019 #23

Did you assume all types of sex would take place? MaryMagdaline Feb 2019 #24

That's a really good question malaise Feb 2019 #28

that is the main issue GetRidOfThem Feb 2019 #95

That is because you are decent malaise Feb 2019 #100

if we were all decent, we would not have these problems... GetRidOfThem Feb 2019 #136

So a woman consents to sex sarisataka Feb 2019 #26

That was my assumption malaise Feb 2019 #32

I guess I am more conservative sarisataka Feb 2019 #39

I think some people are missing a step here. MineralMan Feb 2019 #48

Thank you bro malaise Feb 2019 #52

Absolutely. I've had friends and colleagues tell me stories like that, too. MineralMan Feb 2019 #54

I think the OP is missing a step sarisataka Feb 2019 #64

I agree completely wih you on consent malaise Feb 2019 #111

And what difference would it make whether the idea of sex appealed to someone? onenote Feb 2019 #137

Of course they can change their minds. MineralMan Feb 2019 #138

Sort of. onenote Feb 2019 #141

ok that's just stupid qazplm135 Feb 2019 #29

Well if this story is true malaise Feb 2019 #38

if her story is true qazplm135 Feb 2019 #40

I'm not casting any aspersions malaise Feb 2019 #56

Mike Pence approves of this message. EllieBC Feb 2019 #33

This is just fucking gross. WTF?!! nt Guy Whitey Corngood Feb 2019 #34

Wow. LexVegas Feb 2019 #36

Lots of "wow" posts lately. johnp3907 Feb 2019 #69

This whole place got sort of "wow" all of a sudden. Codeine Feb 2019 #134

Would that our own anecdotal experiences be a projection of the world as a whole. LanternWaste Feb 2019 #41

Interesting. I was raped in a hotel room. AkFemDem Feb 2019 #42

They were not on a date. Ms. Toad Feb 2019 #43

Well Mr Fairfax would have retrieved the documents without me being in the room malaise Feb 2019 #55

But the premise in you OP was a strawman - Ms. Toad Feb 2019 #68

I am not blaming her malaise Feb 2019 #71

Sure seems as if you are. Ms. Toad Feb 2019 #75

When I was in my 20's I went into a hotel room with my employer pnwmom Feb 2019 #132

I have walked into the hotel room of a colleague without intending for sex to happen. moriah Feb 2019 #51

But note that I said on a date malaise Feb 2019 #63

Well, it wasn't a date, from what either of them say. moriah Feb 2019 #70

To me, "no means no". It doesn't matter where it gets said or when it gets said. nt Jarqui Feb 2019 #53

If no meant no so many of us would not malaise Feb 2019 #65

I'm sorry, I don't know if I understand what you are saying here. moriah Feb 2019 #72

All I am saying is there are more than a few men malaise Feb 2019 #74

Okay, thank the FSM. moriah Feb 2019 #76

Thank you. Nt raccoon Feb 2019 #83

what if it wasn't a date Fresh_Start Feb 2019 #66

Just stop obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #67

I'm sorry, malaise - this sounds like the Mike Tyson defense that was used bullwinkle428 Feb 2019 #73

FWIW, malaise, you have my support for having the courage to "go there" oasis Feb 2019 #77

Thanks malaise Feb 2019 #79

I traveled a lot for business more than half of the time with male colleagues Fresh_Start Feb 2019 #78

Nice way to say "asking for it" Devil Child Feb 2019 #80

It's simply not that simple. A sexual encounter ... Whiskeytide Feb 2019 #81

I can't argue with anything you have said malaise Feb 2019 #86

I get that. But it would be better if we ... Whiskeytide Feb 2019 #122

Great post malaise Feb 2019 #123

I think... Mike Nelson Feb 2019 #85

I agree malaise Feb 2019 #91

Damn.....that was hard to read. I'll let my sisters know... AncientGeezer Feb 2019 #87

Never went up for a few drinks to get a better idea of want you want? ismnotwasm Feb 2019 #88

Nope malaise Feb 2019 #93

On the other hand, I was nearly raped ismnotwasm Feb 2019 #108

Kudos for fighting back malaise Feb 2019 #109

Seems To Me the Most Emphatic Way to Have Said No Would Have Been With Her Teeth!! DoctorJoJo Feb 2019 #92

Really....using violence to stop violence...that's you go to? AncientGeezer Feb 2019 #104

Or Slugged Him In the Nuts--Your Choice. WTF Would YOU Have Done?? DoctorJoJo Feb 2019 #119

I'd have shot him, I have a CCP valid in Ma.....women in general...don't have that option. AncientGeezer Feb 2019 #124

Just this morning I was recalling a time when srobertss Feb 2019 #94

I had one who buzzed around until one day I asked him if malaise Feb 2019 #98

Thank YOU! DirtEdonE Feb 2019 #96

Do you consider a business convention to be a date? moriah Feb 2019 #103

I've been to business conventions DirtEdonE Feb 2019 #106

No puritan here malaise Feb 2019 #114

ugh. victim blaming at it's finest right here. m-lekktor Feb 2019 #99

Really? What are you really just saying? I bet you won't really say. 58Sunliner Feb 2019 #102

Kudos to Malaise for putting a thought out there and sticking around to discuss, debate. nt wiggs Feb 2019 #105

Like the comment.... wait for papers I'm the lobby LakeArenal Feb 2019 #107

Back in 1974, I had two friends (sisters) thrown out of a hotel window malaise Feb 2019 #121

Still and all, if I got out I never would remain silent. LakeArenal Feb 2019 #129

Same here malaise Feb 2019 #130

Geez. Back in the mid 80's when in college, at Fraternity shindigs, GulfCoast66 Feb 2019 #110

You are one of the men we love malaise Feb 2019 #112

The women gets raped. No fault of hers. GulfCoast66 Feb 2019 #113

I was very naive back in college and in my early 20's and would often go back to a guy's dorm smirkymonkey Feb 2019 #145

I have never assumed that if I could get a person into my room hughee99 Feb 2019 #115

I've never been on a date with a man, period JuJuYoshida Feb 2019 #126

I will never understand sex without consent... pbmus Feb 2019 #128

Really(what he Hell)....I don't get the OP. Walk through a hotel door and AncientGeezer Feb 2019 #135

The problem I have with the OP is that it reflects a mindset that has kept women down for ages onenote Feb 2019 #139

You are talking philosophy - how it ought to be - what we'd like it to be malaise Feb 2019 #142

It sounds like you are accepting (and implicitly defending) the perpetuation of a way of thinking onenote Feb 2019 #153

I too think it is tragic malaise Feb 2019 #155

I always thought "no" meant no... no matter what. InAbLuEsTaTe Feb 2019 #140

I agree with you, but it might take others longer to learn ecstatic Feb 2019 #143

As a man, I have always my female companions dictate where things go... IluvPitties Feb 2019 #144

I replied earlier with an anecdote about my college years. GulfCoast66 Feb 2019 #146

Your wife is a lucky woman malaise Feb 2019 #147

Not sure she would agree!! GulfCoast66 Feb 2019 #148

Learned the hard way vercetti2021 Feb 2019 #149

I have, more than once. greatauntoftriplets Feb 2019 #151

Hehehehhee malaise Feb 2019 #156

K&R stonecutter357 Feb 2019 #152

And yet Dorian Gray Feb 2019 #157

I totally agree with you malaise Feb 2019 #158