A Fly in the Ointment

[Saoirse9]

42. I watched the video or part of it

Her part. The officer did separate them, told her to sit in the squad car and she seemed grateful for the respite.

I stopped watching then. I didn’t want to hear him speak.

The cops should have had better training to deal with a DV victim. They should have offered her a place to stay away from him. They should have asked her if the civilian report of him hitting her was true. She didn’t have a mark on her but I never had anything visible either. They fucked up. My incident took place in Brooklyn and those cops are very tough. They also see lots of DV and know how to deal with the victims.

I think the reason I got away is I am basically a bitch. Nobody messes with me. I have a ferocious temper and often, I gave as good as I got. Only a drunk person would be brave enough to come after me physically. I am not being facetious, it’s true. But I was teeny tiny back then and no matter how much I fought back it wasn’t enough.

My temper lasts a couple days and then I would usually relent. In his case he had a healthy respect for the law and the arrest scared him. He behaved well for years because he had been arrested.

DV perpetrators never think the violence is their fault. I wrote a paper once about external locus of control. They are unable to take responsibility for being violent. I would guess this Laundrie guy has a whol narrative about how she mean or provocative and none of it was his fault.

Anyway in her case the worst thing she could’ve done was be alone with him for months in end. With no way to call the cops if he took her phone. Those cops were her only chance and they blew it.

It makes me sick to think of her in the middle of nowhere with an aggrieved violent cry baby who had no way to control her except violence. She just never stood a chance.