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lambchopp59

(2,809 posts)
31. Oh lordy do I know this scenario, sort of.
Fri Aug 11, 2023, 10:55 AM
Aug 2023

Pretty much profile of my father towards his demise. It represents the wildest irony of my long damaged relationship with them:
1976 my father got influenced by the long arm of Westboro Baptists, via persistent efforts despite my father's non-religious nature, these radicalized local southern Baptists convinced him to commit an honor killing of his "evil" son.
He set up an electrocution death trap and scenario designed to lead me into it. Not only was the palpable feeling that something was very wrong about this scene when I came home from the school bus, but after my father demanded I retrieve a tool for him with specific instructions from under a vehicle, I walked around the corner towards the tool shed and our German Shepherd jumped on me... stared me directly in the eyes and whined. It just confirmed to me something was "off". Sure enough, in the shed a 220 volt welding line was wired into the all metal torque wrench my father had asked me to retrieve, from my stocking feet my father had demanded I take off my "good school shoes" before stepping in the oily puddle he'd created I'd have to step in to get there, where the opposite line was wired into. (I digress to add the threadbare nature of those "good school shoes&quot I took a wooden handle tool and flipped the electrified item off the table, several sparks flew. I was madder than hell. I let out a staccato yell as things crashed around and sparks flew, to simulate a having been suddenly fried.
When he entered the tool shop, I handed his slack-jawed face the tool and told him in icy tone never to demand anything of me again. I didn't sleep a wink that night. I became very frightened of what he'd try next, maybe with a firearm. I grabbed the hidden pack frame early the next morning I'd been preparing for some time, disappeared from there and survived on the streets nearly 2 years until nearly my 18th birthday when I surfaced at my Aunt's home in Southern California.
I had been dealing with physical bullying at school for two years, the religious freaks were the ringleaders of. I was covered with bruises, obviously so yet none of the faculty of that school in a deeply religious town, and now a very red area intervened.
I had sublimated this event for many years, until odd nightmares, flashbacks were driving me out of ability to sleep at all. After exposure therapy via a university study, all this shit came to the surface.
Flash forward 30 years. My parents were fiercely independent, however, my father was wrecking his car every day. Futile attempts by local police to remind him he had lost his driving privileges led to impounding his vehicle. My older siblings were tied up with health problems of their own, and begged me to see if I could go rectify some of the quagmire their situation had become. Ironic twist on the prodigal son, if you will, I returned to put my father into a lock down nursing home against his will, and set up home care and meals on wheels for my mother. She was relieved not only to have her physical abuser out of the house, but then she could watch her classic movie channels without constant exposure to Fox News drivel that had driven him completely, violently mad.
My father passed away a couple months later. My mom enjoyed the relative peace and care for 2 more years.
There it is. I finally publicly posted the actual crux event that drove me to homelessness in my youth that has always only remained in my unpublished novel.
Best hopes your husband is able to rectify the troubles there and come home.

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I wonder what news sources those folks enjoy, maybe investigate and press some suits/make stink! Brainfodder Aug 2023 #1
My husband traveled to Boardman Ohio last week louslobbs Aug 2023 #11
Thank you for this post. calimary Aug 2023 #22
Thank you louslobbs Aug 2023 #32
I agree with calimary... MiHale Aug 2023 #28
You're welcome....believe it or not louslobbs Aug 2023 #33
Tell him to block Fox from her TV when she's sleeping ExWhoDoesntCare Aug 2023 #29
That's actually a really great idea louslobbs Aug 2023 #36
Oh lordy do I know this scenario, sort of. lambchopp59 Aug 2023 #31
Thank you soooo very much for this lambchopp59 louslobbs Aug 2023 #38
This KentuckyWoman Aug 2023 #37
My wife is a professor at a State University in a red state. Happy Hoosier Aug 2023 #2
My daughter just started her first year as a chemistry professor leftieNanner Aug 2023 #6
Did Not Know That Nanner! ProfessorGAC Aug 2023 #13
Thanks Professor! leftieNanner Aug 2023 #16
And they'll suffer more of a brain drain, too. calimary Aug 2023 #23
They should home school. They don't believe in those institutions? tulipsandroses Aug 2023 #3
Sane parents want their children to learn more and achieve more than they did but right-wingers Solly Mack Aug 2023 #4
That should be their motto - badhair77 Aug 2023 #5
Imagine that: a teacher concerned about everyone GreenWave Aug 2023 #7
How LeftLife Aug 2023 #8
We don't believe in things that exist, but believe in things that don't exist MagickMuffin Aug 2023 #9
How sad for the children. mwb970 Aug 2023 #10
Then home school your damn kids, you sanctimonious... 3catwoman3 Aug 2023 #12
Your loss, Idaho. (nt) Paladin Aug 2023 #14
We should check the social media posts of those RW parents IronLionZion Aug 2023 #15
Colleges and universities should take notice SpankMe Aug 2023 #17
Running teachers out of Idaho is a time-honored tradition jmowreader Aug 2023 #18
Once for a joke, I stood on a sidewalk in Seattle with a cardboard sign that read, spike jones Aug 2023 #19
Disgusting. Let the teacher teach. n/t iluvtennis Aug 2023 #20
Fuck these insane lunatics. Initech Aug 2023 #21
I believe the only thing consistently good that ever came out of Idaho is...potatoes! usaf-vet Aug 2023 #27
Fucking Idaho BlueIdaho Aug 2023 #24
When the state is wholly owned and operated... 2naSalit Aug 2023 #25
Might as well leave. Idaho's Reich-MAGA went after librarians... Grins Aug 2023 #26
My union has supported and inspired my journey struggle4progress Aug 2023 #30
United Nations? jcgoldie Aug 2023 #34
I wish I could say I was surprised, but I'm not. Aristus Aug 2023 #35
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