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buzzycrumbhunger

(1,846 posts)
128. I bailed on my family decades ago...
Fri Nov 28, 2025, 03:54 AM
Nov 2025

Left Iowa in about 1990, back when Rush Limbaugh became a thing and Iowa started getting stupid, and what glimpses I’ve had of my remaining siblings and their kids leads me to believe they all became MAGAt fools, so no great loss there.

Just learned my younger brother just died (Sunday?) from our great family tradition of alcoholism (Scots…), and can’t find it in me to even feel sad about it.

Sadly, my daughter is in NC and having a tough time of it—safe but struggling after leaving an abusive spouse—so it’s just me and my grown son down in Sarasota. Low-key vegan dinner today—er… tonight because we didn’t even start cooking until almost 9 pm—but politics-free. Very, VERY happy not to have close family with right-wing tendencies to cast a pall on this day or any other. Note the ones who are basically okay are also heavily Catholic, which is equally bothersome, heathens that we are.

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Moi! But Then, I Have No Family, HaHa!...... ColoringFool Nov 2025 #1
Moi aussi soldierant Nov 2025 #87
My Mother Would Be 101, and At 91 Was Still Tack-Sharp!.... ColoringFool Nov 2025 #147
Happy Thanksgiving, I'm 68 and in a similar situation and enjoy it very much... wcmagumba Nov 2025 #102
I Hope Your Day Went Well! I Had Store-Bought Lasagna and Played NYT... ColoringFool Nov 2025 #148
I won't be with 3300 miles of my family. sinkingfeeling Nov 2025 #2
Me. Actually I'm not dealing with anybody today. Ocelot II Nov 2025 #3
Awww ... wish you were in Phoenix, we'd invite ya over for the feast! AZJonnie Nov 2025 #83
Thanks! Ocelot II Nov 2025 #85
I love your line "couldn't pick me out of a lineup". llmart Nov 2025 #112
Me. Family all dead and gone. Just me and two cats. nt Hotler Nov 2025 #4
At home with husband and Bettie Nov 2025 #5
I only have one suspected MAGA family group and they're 1200 miles away. Ritabert Nov 2025 #6
ME! CousinIT Nov 2025 #7
I'm too old to put up with toxic people too. Ritabert Nov 2025 #11
Same here. I wasted too much time on 'em in my younger days. CousinIT Nov 2025 #80
Smart move!! InAbLuEsTaTe Nov 2025 #76
I'm at my grand daughters house in Las Vegas, NV due to my truck getting her B service MarineCombatEngineer Nov 2025 #8
I am actually having a great time malaise Nov 2025 #9
Same here, no magats. Thank God! demosincebirth Nov 2025 #122
Me! One son is a Republican, but not MAGA (I know, I tried). Everyone else is a good liberal. mucholderthandirt Nov 2025 #10
Me. H2O Man Nov 2025 #12
Don't have any Maga family or friends, period. Fil1957 Nov 2025 #13
I don't have much contact with my maga family. Grumpy Old Guy Nov 2025 #14
Only MAGA relative is my brother...we haven't talked in almost a year Prairie Gates Nov 2025 #15
Here. However, we will get some blowback from the ex in-laws haele Nov 2025 #16
A neighborhood Thanksgiving KT2000 Nov 2025 #17
I can't say I even know Magats. NNadir Nov 2025 #18
Me! SheltieLover Nov 2025 #19
Hope and I are blessed in that way. RobertDevereaux Nov 2025 #20
Us Turbineguy Nov 2025 #21
No MAGAts in my family. LoisB Nov 2025 #22
NO Problem here............ popsdenver Nov 2025 #23
I've parted ways with my maga family members years ago though I don't celebrate any US holidays anyway yaesu Nov 2025 #24
Thankfully me angrychair Nov 2025 #25
No MAGAs allowed in my home. We're hosting and celebrating with true patriots -- all strong minded DEMs. Nanuke Nov 2025 #26
Me RandySF Nov 2025 #27
Me. Just staying home and eating leftover Panda Express. tanyev Nov 2025 #28
I do not socialize with my sister any longer, so that problem is avoided today Moostache Nov 2025 #29
My grand daughter's husband/family are MAGA.... FarPoint Nov 2025 #30
Dayton? Nikossitti Nov 2025 #129
We are alone with dog Tree Lady Nov 2025 #31
Daughter is coming tomorrow. usonian Nov 2025 #32
ALL 6 of us are D's Omaha Steve Nov 2025 #33
EVERY one of my family are Democrats! Wednesdays Nov 2025 #34
Raising Hand ProfessorGAC Nov 2025 #35
No MAGAs in my life Grim Chieftain Nov 2025 #36
No one in my immediate family is MAGA sakabatou Nov 2025 #37
Any MAGA relatives are not a problem for me Dave Id Nov 2025 #38
Same here. Ritabert Nov 2025 #50
Here! GB_RN Nov 2025 #39
A friend was in a coma for ten days before she died. I walked in the second niyad Nov 2025 #46
Us! Only MAGA is my brother in FL - we are somewhat estranged, so no fear of a visit. NewHendoLib Nov 2025 #40
Us too. I am wearing my dress sweat pants. Have a great one.I keep thinking maybe people will wise up but then, reality. twodogsbarking Nov 2025 #41
i am going in my usual santa all red motif. AllaN01Bear Nov 2025 #49
Me!!! I will be spending the day with friends who are just as warped as I am! niyad Nov 2025 #42
Perfect combination!😁 nt Hope22 Nov 2025 #125
We don't have any of those in our family. murielm99 Nov 2025 #43
Today I'm on my own because we're celebrating as a family tomorrow. greatauntoftriplets Nov 2025 #44
1 have one sister and four brothers.... Escape Nov 2025 #45
I have outlived all of the MAGA relatives I have. MineralMan Nov 2025 #47
you stirred up that cognizant dissonance barbtries Nov 2025 #64
cusins with a STRICT no politics or religion policy. both on the other side . AllaN01Bear Nov 2025 #48
Me! Blumancru Nov 2025 #51
And me Augiedog Nov 2025 #52
Charlie Kirk did it for me. pfitz59 Nov 2025 #53
Me!!! Beacool Nov 2025 #54
I started cutting off that side of the family back in the Tea Party days. Now there's just me and my friends. Dorothy V Nov 2025 #55
No Maga in my life. Not anymore. The Polack MSgt Nov 2025 #56
6.75 for dinner, no MAGA RussBLib Nov 2025 #57
We are not currently talking, its nice. sunflowerseed Nov 2025 #58
Me, barbtries Nov 2025 #59
Entertaining 20 of my wife's relatives toady bif Nov 2025 #60
I have wonderful group of people Delmette2.0 Nov 2025 #61
Me mvd Nov 2025 #62
I don't think we have Magas in our family. Old Crank Nov 2025 #63
My husband and I are going by ourselves to a restaurant for dinner Mad_Dem_X Nov 2025 #65
Have a good dinner! mvd Nov 2025 #68
I come from homegirl Nov 2025 #66
HERE!!! Iggo Nov 2025 #67
Zero MAGAts in my fam, zero MAGAts in my even remotely close friend cohort. Celerity Nov 2025 #69
I'm one who's lucky enough not to have MAGA family members AFAIK meow2u3 Nov 2025 #70
Yeah, I am around 1300 miles from my MAGA family members. OldBaldy1701E Nov 2025 #71
We had a house full of democrats. Uncle Gary explained Emile Nov 2025 #72
Me!! moose65 Nov 2025 #73
Feeling only slightly guilty... BH liberal Nov 2025 #74
Only via a few texts! nt Ilsa Nov 2025 #75
Just my wife, her daughter, and four grandchildren 7 - 15 Martin Eden Nov 2025 #77
Wife and I don't do religion, religious holidays, and we don't wrap ourselves in the flag, so MAGA family fear us! RedWhiteBlueIsRacist Nov 2025 #78
We don't do any of that either DFW Nov 2025 #131
Thanks for your comment! RedWhiteBlueIsRacist Nov 2025 #146
Depends on how you define "fortunate"... regnaD kciN Nov 2025 #79
I self-deported from my Republican family. Mblaze Nov 2025 #81
It's a small group, my partner and their mom and son is all we have around this year AZJonnie Nov 2025 #82
Not one in my extended Family Across Cha Nov 2025 #84
NO MAGA AT OUR DINNER! WVGIRL Nov 2025 #86
4th generation Democrat here! synni Nov 2025 #88
Me! ZDU Nov 2025 #89
Our family is fortunate enough markodochartaigh Nov 2025 #90
Me! ._. Nov 2025 #91
I don't have any MAGA family. nt doc03 Nov 2025 #92
I feel very fortunate indeed. yardwork Nov 2025 #93
No maggots here. usedtobedemgurl Nov 2025 #94
Just me & my hubby this year - flying our children in for Xmas TBF Nov 2025 #95
Not a one in the immediate bunch. Six117 Nov 2025 #96
.. BlueWaveNeverEnd Nov 2025 #97
We are hosting the orphan thanksgiving dinner idahoblue Nov 2025 #98
Me. My family are all left wing. broiles Nov 2025 #99
My Aunt Deep State Witch Nov 2025 #100
Me too... heaven. FalloutShelter Nov 2025 #101
I had a wonderful Thanksgiving mgardener Nov 2025 #103
I'll be with my adult parents. Ms. Toad Nov 2025 #104
Very happy drmeow Nov 2025 #105
Me! One of the things I'm thankful for today. dem4decades Nov 2025 #106
Yes, and loving it! IzzaNuDay Nov 2025 #107
Not a MAGAt in sight here! CaptainTruth Nov 2025 #108
MAGAless and happy! EuterpeThelo Nov 2025 #109
I don't live near my MAGA relatives. OnionPatch Nov 2025 #110
Did not have that problem today, fortunately. Xavier Breath Nov 2025 #111
Fortunate by design. hamsterjill Nov 2025 #113
I had dinner with friends and all were like minded. Thankfully my MAGA brother lives far away. MLAA Nov 2025 #114
I don't deal with them on any day. Holiday or not. mdbl Nov 2025 #115
We got kicked out of the extended family Thanksgiving in 2020. HappyLarge Nov 2025 #116
Actually i am visiting my sister and brother in law oldmanlynn Nov 2025 #117
I spent the day with just my husband and son. HeartsCanHope Nov 2025 #118
I am very lucky. bluescribbler Nov 2025 #119
liberal N proud............ Upthevibe Nov 2025 #120
Moi. J'habite en France timvrip Nov 2025 #121
Oooo that sounds like fun jfz9580m Nov 2025 #123
Here! Foods eaten, places visited, movies were topics. No politics by natural conversation flow... JHB Nov 2025 #124
Only had to remind my SiL once about the ban on politics. It was a very pleasant dinner. marble falls Nov 2025 #126
We were "fortunate" in that vein, in a way, in that my extended family developed a rift RockRaven Nov 2025 #127
I bailed on my family decades ago... buzzycrumbhunger Nov 2025 #128
This message was self-deleted by its author Collimator Nov 2025 #130
It was interesting to read about everyone's different situations. Collimator Nov 2025 #132
Happy belated Thanksgiving! deurbano Nov 2025 #136
I found Stacey Grove Nov 2025 #133
My family is overwhelmingly Democratic Siwsan Nov 2025 #134
Me! I'm not sure if our daughters' new partner (1-1/2 years) is a Democrat but he's not MAGA. lark Nov 2025 #135
Belated Happy Thanksgiving, liberal N proud Niagara Nov 2025 #137
Great thread.. mountain grammy Nov 2025 #138
No Trumpers at my table Picaro Nov 2025 #139
No Trumpers at my table Picaro Nov 2025 #140
Me, thank goodnesd obamanut2012 Nov 2025 #141
One of the only good things now that my Mom is gone IbogaProject Nov 2025 #142
Happy Post Thanksgiving Day IP. Mine was fine, spent with myself and my invisible friends... wcmagumba Nov 2025 #149
ME!!!! evilhime Nov 2025 #143
No MAGA in my family YoshidaYui Nov 2025 #144
I'm fortunate that the Republicans in my family are not MAGA. But I spent Thanksgiving with my chosen family. beaglelover Nov 2025 #145
I am among that fortunate group karynnj Nov 2025 #150
Me! Aviation Pro Nov 2025 #151
they were there but no discussion of anything which might become nt yellowdogintexas Nov 2025 #152
No magats at my table, makes for peaceful happy conversation. Clouds Passing Nov 2025 #153
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