SEXTING! (Poll)

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67. I understand that

But I don't know where the word "consent" comes to play in this. If the expectation is monogamy, then no partner of a cheating spouse is consenting to it. If there were consent, then it wouldn't be cheating. It'd just be an open relationship.

But we don't typically use the word consent in this context. Spouses don't consent to all kinds of things their partner may do. Staying out without calling, drinking, hanging out with a friend they hate, buying an expensive treat for themselves.

Consent has serious implications when it comes to sexual matters. I don't think we could or should extend that concept's context to being a shitty spouse. Lack of consent in sexual matters is a crime. Lack of consent in a relationship could just mean being an asshole. And even then, maybe the partner's threshold for consent of behavior is unreasonable. "You can't go out with your friends!" might not be a reasonable expectation or request in a marriage. Would we say if the spouse went out anyway, their partner is a non-consenting adult?