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Aussie105

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41. Same here in reverse - playing parent to a 5 year old wife who is 82.

Thu Jun 4, 2026, 01:31 AM

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It's hard work.

What hurts just as much as the gradual loss of the person I married, is the non-comprehension from younger relatives, who are noticeable by their long term absence.

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