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ismnotwasm

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53. It is isn't isolated to this case

Mon Mar 18, 2013, 11:36 PM

Mar 2013

The social media culture has brought out the worst of rape culture in a way, because like the kids that 'watched' at those parties, in Steubenville, these people seem to have no idea what they're saying is wrong.

It's what Sandra Fluke endured for speaking out

It's what Zerlina Maxwell endured for speaking out

It's what Anita Sarkeesian endured--- she made a video criticizing the 'damsel in distress' tropes in video games and received threats of rape and violence.

It wrong and disgusting and as much as I love the Internet for allowing diverse points of view to be expressed, it can also show the ugly side of how some think, or play follow the leader.

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wow abelenkpe Mar 2013 #1

I imagine most of them are from boys in their tweens to their mid 20s Warpy Mar 2013 #54

What gets me are the posts from women! abelenkpe Mar 2013 #68

years ago, I read somewhere in talking about this very issue, a study on lobsters. if you put niyad Mar 2013 #70

The biggest problem is probably the women. musical_soul Mar 2013 #83

"Something had to be wrong with her so it can't happen to me" Warpy Mar 2013 #99

actually, we keep giving it to the kids. studies have come out it is the middle aged men throwing seabeyond Mar 2013 #72

imo: There are a lot of very sick people posting vile shit. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #2

Yeah ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #3

It is what they are learning from their parents. Don't blame the kids. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #4

That's what think ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #5

were you aware In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #6

No I wasn't ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #9

indeed In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #10

can only begin to imagine how difficult your job was. as far as fines go, my thought, in addition niyad Mar 2013 #16

The death threats are unforgivable. I left CPS when I woke up every morning with tears in my eyes. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #19

It's also what they're learning from every kind of media. (nt) enough Mar 2013 #7

The media are feeding the public informatory information. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #8

lol. i blame the kids also. as a parent i am very much into parental responsibility. i am also seabeyond Mar 2013 #73

imo: We all need to work together for a healthy society. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #78

yup yup yup seabeyond Mar 2013 #81

I will do whatever I can to help when possible. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #86

and another... yup yup AND yup. seabeyond Mar 2013 #97

Thank You!!! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #98

This is rape culture. Luminous Animal Mar 2013 #11

Yes it is. Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #12

I've got it bookmarked. It will come in handy. Luminous Animal Mar 2013 #14

But... but...but... someone will just get offended that they couldn't Fawke Em Mar 2013 #33

^ <3 ^ Iris Mar 2013 #59

Thank you. Luminous Animal Mar 2013 #100

yes, this is the very definition of it. bench scientist Mar 2013 #38

And so many deny that it exists even though it's in our faces all the time. Squinch Mar 2013 #80

That is horrifying kdmorris Mar 2013 #13

Those reactions are disturbing to say the least. Bonobo Mar 2013 #15

and what pockets would those be? niyad Mar 2013 #18

Just my opinion... Bonobo Mar 2013 #24

anywhere there is rape, there is rape culture, including CA and MA. niyad Mar 2013 #27

I agree. Pockets of rape culture. nt Bonobo Mar 2013 #39

That's class and regional bias bullshit. Fawke Em Mar 2013 #37

Nope, It's at NYU, Columbia and Rutgers too. bettyellen Mar 2013 #45

Yup, that's the pocket of frat culture that I mentioned. nt Bonobo Mar 2013 #50

It's not just the less educated, or Southerners. Not nearly. bettyellen Mar 2013 #51

Yes, you are correct. Bonobo Mar 2013 #55

we need better messages to break out of this group think bettyellen Mar 2013 #56

I haven't been to the US in over 3 years so have no idea. Bonobo Mar 2013 #57

there was a really interesting article comparing the experiences of elephants and child bettyellen Mar 2013 #60

Not sure it is a digression. Bonobo Mar 2013 #62

So we should add colleges in blue states where there are frats. And Squinch Mar 2013 #88

Well the frats themselves are the pockets. Bonobo Mar 2013 #90

No. The frats themselves, if they are allowed to exist and have this culture, are Squinch Mar 2013 #93

That is a fair point. Bonobo Mar 2013 #94

Our entire culture is a rape culture. Iris Mar 2013 #61

I don't think I am kidding myself. Bonobo Mar 2013 #63

Um. Ok. n/t Iris Mar 2013 #64

Ummm, like sure. n/t Bonobo Mar 2013 #65

yep. whatever you say. n/t Iris Mar 2013 #66

Uh-huh, fer sure. **n///t** Bonobo Mar 2013 #67

But so far your pockets include: the South, which is a third to half the country Squinch Mar 2013 #92

not only is it not pockets, it is around the world. glaringly obvious. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #74

I managed to get through the first three or four before I got sick. what vile, filthy, ignorant, niyad Mar 2013 #17

I agree. It was bad! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #20

Blaming the victim is older than you or me nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #22

Oh. I know that. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #23

Me too. nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #26

I am very sorry. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #30

Oh no, I just always take the side of the victim nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #31

Rape does not happen to men. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #34

We all matter in this. nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #40

I agree. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #43

i made it about three, maybe four. nothing surprising, though. expected. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #75

Jock culture + rape culture nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #21

I am just so disgusted and shocked and horrified. Butterbean Mar 2013 #25

You too? I was all but surprised though nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #28

I am sheltered, I guess. I have never personally met such people. Butterbean Mar 2013 #36

Over the years I have done research off and on nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #42

I think my jaw would hit the ground and my stomach would twist in knots Butterbean Mar 2013 #46

Yup nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #47

I don't get any of this. PDJane Mar 2013 #29

Misogyny is cultural and learned. Just like racism, it's completely illogical. nt geek tragedy Mar 2013 #32

Scrolling down quite a ways, some people really hate the First Lady. LAGC Mar 2013 #35

This poor girl is being... one_voice Mar 2013 #41

What a culture... MrMickeysMom Mar 2013 #44

All I have to say, is that I have never been raped or sexally assaulted but all american girl Mar 2013 #48

It's even on huffington post! davidn3600 Mar 2013 #49

yep, women go along to get along too. LOL, we have those cheerleaders here too. bettyellen Mar 2013 #58

Just FYI, there are a lot of conservatives that post on HuffPo comments. justiceischeap Mar 2013 #76

I'm speechless! Catherine Vincent Mar 2013 #52

It is isn't isolated to this case ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #53

The wrong person is being shamed. AngryOldDem Mar 2013 #69

Damn right the wrong person is being shamed meow2u3 Mar 2013 #95

this would be our rape culture, if anyone is confused. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #71

You're wrong sea, there IS no rape culture. justiceischeap Mar 2013 #77

It's not about blaming men... musical_soul Mar 2013 #84

There have been posters on DU (male and female) that think that rape culture justiceischeap Mar 2013 #87

And it's all in our heads. Silly us. Squinch Mar 2013 #96

Question: Myrina Mar 2013 #79

Yes they have to register as sex offenders nt riderinthestorm Mar 2013 #85

Our culture is something to be ashamed of. musical_soul Mar 2013 #82

Wow. I didn't see this thread yesterday. gollygee Mar 2013 #89

Fuck these guys. bamacrat Mar 2013 #91