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55. Yes, you are correct.

Reply to bettyellen (Reply #51)

Mon Mar 18, 2013, 11:40 PM

Mar 2013

Like the rogue elephants, young men, especially in packs, can exhibit bad behavior indeed.

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Public Shaming (Steudenville thread) [View all] ismnotwasm Mar 2013 OP

wow abelenkpe Mar 2013 #1

I imagine most of them are from boys in their tweens to their mid 20s Warpy Mar 2013 #54

What gets me are the posts from women! abelenkpe Mar 2013 #68

years ago, I read somewhere in talking about this very issue, a study on lobsters. if you put niyad Mar 2013 #70

The biggest problem is probably the women. musical_soul Mar 2013 #83

"Something had to be wrong with her so it can't happen to me" Warpy Mar 2013 #99

actually, we keep giving it to the kids. studies have come out it is the middle aged men throwing seabeyond Mar 2013 #72

imo: There are a lot of very sick people posting vile shit. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #2

Yeah ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #3

It is what they are learning from their parents. Don't blame the kids. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #4

That's what think ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #5

were you aware In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #6

No I wasn't ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #9

indeed In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #10

can only begin to imagine how difficult your job was. as far as fines go, my thought, in addition niyad Mar 2013 #16

The death threats are unforgivable. I left CPS when I woke up every morning with tears in my eyes. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #19

It's also what they're learning from every kind of media. (nt) enough Mar 2013 #7

The media are feeding the public informatory information. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #8

lol. i blame the kids also. as a parent i am very much into parental responsibility. i am also seabeyond Mar 2013 #73

imo: We all need to work together for a healthy society. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #78

yup yup yup seabeyond Mar 2013 #81

I will do whatever I can to help when possible. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #86

and another... yup yup AND yup. seabeyond Mar 2013 #97

Thank You!!! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #98

This is rape culture. Luminous Animal Mar 2013 #11

Yes it is. Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #12

I've got it bookmarked. It will come in handy. Luminous Animal Mar 2013 #14

But... but...but... someone will just get offended that they couldn't Fawke Em Mar 2013 #33

^ <3 ^ Iris Mar 2013 #59

Thank you. Luminous Animal Mar 2013 #100

yes, this is the very definition of it. bench scientist Mar 2013 #38

And so many deny that it exists even though it's in our faces all the time. Squinch Mar 2013 #80

That is horrifying kdmorris Mar 2013 #13

Those reactions are disturbing to say the least. Bonobo Mar 2013 #15

and what pockets would those be? niyad Mar 2013 #18

Just my opinion... Bonobo Mar 2013 #24

anywhere there is rape, there is rape culture, including CA and MA. niyad Mar 2013 #27

I agree. Pockets of rape culture. nt Bonobo Mar 2013 #39

That's class and regional bias bullshit. Fawke Em Mar 2013 #37

Nope, It's at NYU, Columbia and Rutgers too. bettyellen Mar 2013 #45

Yup, that's the pocket of frat culture that I mentioned. nt Bonobo Mar 2013 #50

It's not just the less educated, or Southerners. Not nearly. bettyellen Mar 2013 #51

Yes, you are correct. Bonobo Mar 2013 #55

we need better messages to break out of this group think bettyellen Mar 2013 #56

I haven't been to the US in over 3 years so have no idea. Bonobo Mar 2013 #57

there was a really interesting article comparing the experiences of elephants and child bettyellen Mar 2013 #60

Not sure it is a digression. Bonobo Mar 2013 #62

So we should add colleges in blue states where there are frats. And Squinch Mar 2013 #88

Well the frats themselves are the pockets. Bonobo Mar 2013 #90

No. The frats themselves, if they are allowed to exist and have this culture, are Squinch Mar 2013 #93

That is a fair point. Bonobo Mar 2013 #94

Our entire culture is a rape culture. Iris Mar 2013 #61

I don't think I am kidding myself. Bonobo Mar 2013 #63

Um. Ok. n/t Iris Mar 2013 #64

Ummm, like sure. n/t Bonobo Mar 2013 #65

yep. whatever you say. n/t Iris Mar 2013 #66

Uh-huh, fer sure. **n///t** Bonobo Mar 2013 #67

But so far your pockets include: the South, which is a third to half the country Squinch Mar 2013 #92

not only is it not pockets, it is around the world. glaringly obvious. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #74

I managed to get through the first three or four before I got sick. what vile, filthy, ignorant, niyad Mar 2013 #17

I agree. It was bad! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #20

Blaming the victim is older than you or me nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #22

Oh. I know that. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #23

Me too. nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #26

I am very sorry. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #30

Oh no, I just always take the side of the victim nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #31

Rape does not happen to men. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #34

We all matter in this. nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #40

I agree. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #43

i made it about three, maybe four. nothing surprising, though. expected. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #75

Jock culture + rape culture nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #21

I am just so disgusted and shocked and horrified. Butterbean Mar 2013 #25

You too? I was all but surprised though nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #28

I am sheltered, I guess. I have never personally met such people. Butterbean Mar 2013 #36

Over the years I have done research off and on nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #42

I think my jaw would hit the ground and my stomach would twist in knots Butterbean Mar 2013 #46

Yup nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #47

I don't get any of this. PDJane Mar 2013 #29

Misogyny is cultural and learned. Just like racism, it's completely illogical. nt geek tragedy Mar 2013 #32

Scrolling down quite a ways, some people really hate the First Lady. LAGC Mar 2013 #35

This poor girl is being... one_voice Mar 2013 #41

What a culture... MrMickeysMom Mar 2013 #44

All I have to say, is that I have never been raped or sexally assaulted but all american girl Mar 2013 #48

It's even on huffington post! davidn3600 Mar 2013 #49

yep, women go along to get along too. LOL, we have those cheerleaders here too. bettyellen Mar 2013 #58

Just FYI, there are a lot of conservatives that post on HuffPo comments. justiceischeap Mar 2013 #76

I'm speechless! Catherine Vincent Mar 2013 #52

It is isn't isolated to this case ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #53

The wrong person is being shamed. AngryOldDem Mar 2013 #69

Damn right the wrong person is being shamed meow2u3 Mar 2013 #95

this would be our rape culture, if anyone is confused. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #71

You're wrong sea, there IS no rape culture. justiceischeap Mar 2013 #77

It's not about blaming men... musical_soul Mar 2013 #84

There have been posters on DU (male and female) that think that rape culture justiceischeap Mar 2013 #87

And it's all in our heads. Silly us. Squinch Mar 2013 #96

Question: Myrina Mar 2013 #79

Yes they have to register as sex offenders nt riderinthestorm Mar 2013 #85

Our culture is something to be ashamed of. musical_soul Mar 2013 #82

Wow. I didn't see this thread yesterday. gollygee Mar 2013 #89

Fuck these guys. bamacrat Mar 2013 #91