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cally

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41. i've been where you are tonight

Reply to madville (Original post)

Fri Aug 2, 2013, 11:25 PM

Aug 2013

I hope to never to back. I go to AA and follow the program. It's changed my life. feel free to pm me.

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I'm drunk, any other alcoholics around? [View all] madville Aug 2013 OP

Learn to get high on oxygen. That's how I kicked smoking more than 20 years ago. randome Aug 2013 #1

Here's a DU forum that may be helpful to you: sufrommich Aug 2013 #2

AA Gman Aug 2013 #3

I second AA. newcriminal Aug 2013 #8

yes i have VA resources madville Aug 2013 #12

Did you see action? Gman Aug 2013 #36

Yes, the folks in the Lounge would probably be a better sounding board. Lasher Aug 2013 #4

This message was self-deleted by its author Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #17

You've taken a great step here just by your post. You need a crutch and I hope someone here Purveyor Aug 2013 #5

I fucking love you... cherokeeprogressive Aug 2013 #6

You just made my night madville Aug 2013 #14

If you can go two or three days without drinking at all, you're not in the grip of alcohol. cherokeeprogressive Aug 2013 #25

I disagree. The underlying problem will still be there. Whatever it is... n/t dogknob Aug 2013 #62

Dear madville, elleng Aug 2013 #7

Exercise is one way bhikkhu Aug 2013 #9

Not one myself, but I am very familiar with the problem quinnox Aug 2013 #10

I found something more important than drinking. pintobean Aug 2013 #11

You are not alone. I am a wino and a cigarette addict. RebelOne Aug 2013 #13

I smoked for 25 years. For the last 5, I woke up every day and said, Squinch Aug 2013 #102

Get a bike. Gregorian Aug 2013 #15

I think AA is wonderful but not everyone likes it or does well with it... steve2470 Aug 2013 #16

I have much experience with alcoholism in my family and would like to vouch for Marie Marie Aug 2013 #27

29 years sober here also..a day at a time KinMd Aug 2013 #59

You sound similar to me mikeypooh Aug 2013 #18

"I see the world we live in as being a series of hard to see cages like that" woo me with science Aug 2013 #115

The first step is admitting you have a problem. AA doesn't work for everyone, but it does work for Electric Monk Aug 2013 #19

Think you said this very well. And AA did work for me though I'm a liberal atheist Rhiannon12866 Aug 2013 #64

Anecdottaly, I've noticed a fairly high success rate in those who do 90 meetings in 90 days. Electric Monk Aug 2013 #72

I think you meant to reply to the OP, but I totally agree with you on that, as well! Rhiannon12866 Aug 2013 #73

I used to drink far more than I should. Whisp Aug 2013 #20

Ever think of simply not doing it anymore? MrSlayer Aug 2013 #21

Spoken like someone who has no clue nobodyspecial Aug 2013 #22

Oh no? MrSlayer Aug 2013 #29

Absolute nonsense AgingAmerican Aug 2013 #32

Fair enough. MrSlayer Aug 2013 #37

But it is not. You are lucky. nt Mojorabbit Aug 2013 #55

You might want to try to fathom it, or not comment on your superiority to people who are clearly Squinch Aug 2013 #103

You're probably right. MrSlayer Aug 2013 #108

dammed right Chaco Dundee Aug 2013 #53

You couldn't be more wrong. Warren Stupidity Aug 2013 #77

"former alcoholic"? cordelia Aug 2013 #81

Sorry if you've accepted the permanently Warren Stupidity Aug 2013 #82

I agree. pintobean Aug 2013 #87

+1 Go Vols Aug 2013 #98

AA has no proven efficacy Major Nikon Aug 2013 #110

I wasn't going to bring that up. Warren Stupidity Aug 2013 #111

It's not even close to being the most used method Major Nikon Aug 2013 #113

Not so simple Dwayne Hicks Aug 2013 #23

Perhaps if you have an addictive personality. MrSlayer Aug 2013 #30

Read this then say that again. It can become a physical addiction, not just a 'bad habit'. Electric Monk Aug 2013 #38

You're right. MrSlayer Aug 2013 #52

It definitely has physiological Dorian Gray Aug 2013 #84

I was just laid off for 20 months. MrSlayer Aug 2013 #95

You are lucky. Dorian Gray Aug 2013 #99

It is very irresponsible to suggest to an addict that they go it alone or continue to drink/use. Skeeter Barnes Aug 2013 #47

big mistake for people to think what works for them can work for everyone Skittles Aug 2013 #69

You're right. MrSlayer Aug 2013 #71

I empathize with you aristocles Aug 2013 #24

You can click around here. rug Aug 2013 #26

Sober 29 years and counting... WCGreen Aug 2013 #28

Thank you all for replying madville Aug 2013 #31

Good luck Madville Dorian Gray Aug 2013 #85

no AA meeting should be religious NMDemDist2 Aug 2013 #88

I can't say I'm qualified to advise Shankapotomus Aug 2013 #33

Good luck. BlueCheese Aug 2013 #34

I did the first steps on AA. Really works. Especially the part where you admit you have no applegrove Aug 2013 #35

I'm 59...been drinking since I was 17. Next Wednesday I'm having an MRI (roughly $3000) on my liver Rowdyboy Aug 2013 #39

I hope it is minor Rowdyboy. Good luck! n/t veness Aug 2013 #67

good luck, Rowdyboy renate Aug 2013 #80

good luck Rowdyboy ! nt steve2470 Aug 2013 #83

Gosh Rowdyboy Dorian Gray Aug 2013 #86

I hope for the best for you, RowdyBoy. LiberalLoner Aug 2013 #94

My thoughts are with you. Keep us posted. Squinch Aug 2013 #104

"the last few women I've spent time with were heavy drinkers as well." Spitfire of ATJ Aug 2013 #40

i've been where you are tonight cally Aug 2013 #41

I do what you do and have been doing it for 32 years. Life is good. virgogal Aug 2013 #43

AA works for a good many people, but it's not for everyone. cordelia Aug 2013 #42

get the ball rolling on medical treatment Blues Heron Aug 2013 #44

I would look into meetings immediately and getting an assessment at a treatment center very soon. Skeeter Barnes Aug 2013 #45

Your story is typical!! busterbrown Aug 2013 #46

Do you love the taste of beer or do you love being drunk or do you hate both? JaneyVee Aug 2013 #48

One question Phillyindy Aug 2013 #49

".....that's what drinking does for me, momentarily" ".....I can't shake the need" Skittles Aug 2013 #68

I agree, although... Phillyindy Aug 2013 #74

you're "mild" - right now Skittles Aug 2013 #89

PM me if you like...I had to quit for a year back in 2007 because I had to have anti-tb meds.... Rowdyboy Aug 2013 #50

This message was self-deleted by its author backscatter712 Aug 2013 #51

My brother cleaned up in AA Kennah Aug 2013 #54

madville Skittles Aug 2013 #56

What an incredible piece. I can't remember enjoying reading anything more. Rowdyboy Aug 2013 #58

I read it a couple weeks ago and it has stuck with me Skittles Aug 2013 #61

Its a gut punch-he doesn't brag or apologise-it is what it is.... Rowdyboy Aug 2013 #63

I'm an alchoholic been sober for 29 years now upaloopa Aug 2013 #57

Hey madville MinneapolisMatt Aug 2013 #60

Brave. SammyWinstonJack Aug 2013 #65

Well other than traditional outlets, counseling, AA you might try self-hypnosis, Uncle Joe Aug 2013 #66

Quit just a week ago rufus dog Aug 2013 #70

Become active in something you really care about... jimlup Aug 2013 #75

Life-changing thread, perfectly timed cilla4progress Aug 2013 #76

That took guts...good luck to you BeyondGeography Aug 2013 #78

Please get help. Arugula Latte Aug 2013 #79

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Welcome to DU. I hope you don't mind if I copy-paste your post, in case it gets deleted. Electric Monk Aug 2013 #100

You've made a pretty major step. Maybe AA will work for, but maybe not. Atman Aug 2013 #91

Please check out soberrecovery.com LiberalLoner Aug 2013 #92

PS this is a really good documentary LiberalLoner Aug 2013 #93

I have seen some good advice here Andy823 Aug 2013 #96

An alternative to AA: the Sinclair method. backscatter712 Aug 2013 #97

I think a really important point from the response to you is, don't do this alone steve2470 Aug 2013 #101

+1 I only suggested an online forum because there is no driving, he can go LiberalLoner Aug 2013 #105

yes, online, in person, just WITH others somehow, I applaud your idea ! nt steve2470 Aug 2013 #107

Madville, I have no advice except to say that, whatever method you choose, you are young Squinch Aug 2013 #106

Most useful thing I ever read jollyreaper2112 Aug 2013 #109

I grew up with alcoholics davidpdx Aug 2013 #112

Some suggestions for the non-religious (a few for the religious too) progree Aug 2013 #114