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In reply to the discussion: Battle of the Sexists [View all]scarletwoman
(31,893 posts)There is no way that I would recount, on DU, the experience that precipitated that soul-deep perception - all I will say is that I was stripped down to my essential self and found, to my great surprise and amazement, that my self had no gender whatsoever. I am simply a human being wearing a female body this time around on the wheel.
I avoid the gender discussions here, because I can't figure out what to say that might make any difference whatsoever. I am not my vagina or uterus, I am simply a human being who aspires to be good at human beingness.
This is not to say that I do not thoroughly enjoy my femaleness. In this life I have always been delighted in that aspect of my self. There are certain powers and perquisites that obtain from it, and I have been happy to indulge in them. And within the over-arching aspiration to be a good human being, I have - hopefully - done my best to do no harm to other human beings while doing so.
We human beings are always hungry for attention, for validation, for affection, for love. Unfortunately, this hunger gets twisted into the desire to dominate, to control, to put others down in order to raise ourselves up. To be a good human being requires letting go of such desires and cultivating kindness, compassion, and equanimity. These traits are not exclusive to one gender or another.
I am not at war with those human beings who manifest as males. Nor do I feel that I am being especially warred upon by them due to having a female body. People are nasty to each other in all kinds of ways - the so-called "war between the sexes" is just one aspect of that.
Patriarchy, Matriarchy - how about just Humanarchy? To behave as an impeccable human being in all aspects of life, including one's relations with the opposite sex.
(edited for misspelled word)