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sufrommich

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4. I come from a family of italians and finns

Reply to proudretiredvet (Original post)

Sun Feb 16, 2014, 03:18 PM

Feb 2014

on my mother's side. On average,the Italians are loud,stand very close when speaking to you and do not shy away from asking very personal questions on practically anything. On average,the Finns talk quietly,keep a comfortable distance away and shy away from personal questions even with people they know well. Of course,both families have introverts and extroverts,but there is no denying that the Italian side has way more extroverts that the Finnish side. I don't have a problem with loud and blunt as I grew up with it,I think a lot of people who aren't used to it may read it wrong as aggression when that is sometimes not the case.

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Question of culture and how we interpret loud yelling and sound. [View all] proudretiredvet Feb 2014 OP

I detest screaming and yelling (except at sporting events!). Lizzie Poppet Feb 2014 #1

I interpret yelling as hostile and aggressive. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2014 #2

Southern Wasp here and it's the same. kickitup Feb 2014 #9

It's not politically correct to talk about but it is true bluestateguy Feb 2014 #3

I come from a family of italians and finns sufrommich Feb 2014 #4

Some of the interpretation is culturally conditioned, and some isn't. surrealAmerican Feb 2014 #5

Sometimes volume replaces thought. Ron Green Feb 2014 #6

My husband is from Southern Italy JustAnotherGen Feb 2014 #7

Thanks and keep up the replies. proudretiredvet Feb 2014 #10

Something I said to my husband when we first started dating JustAnotherGen Feb 2014 #11

I'm anti-yelling/screaming justiceischeap Feb 2014 #8

I come from a big family of yellers. MadrasT Feb 2014 #12

Have no clue...people don't scream at me. Contrary1 Feb 2014 #13

WASP here Tom Ripley Feb 2014 #14

We have the deep sigh thing down to an art form. alarimer Feb 2014 #16

Absolutely. My mother-in-law is the queen of deep sighs -"This ring is lovely, but (sigh) it has... Tom Ripley Feb 2014 #21

Screaming is not really communicating; it's meant to be intimidating alarimer Feb 2014 #15

Agree 100% proudretiredvet Feb 2014 #22

I have never felt that my life was in danger because someone raised their voice to me nt geek tragedy Feb 2014 #17

I get away from people that habitually yell in anger. I get them out of my life. DireStrike Feb 2014 #18

"How do you...react to someone screaming at you"? Iggo Feb 2014 #19

My SO's father was from Italy Italian mcar Feb 2014 #20

What is the point of this question? Pretzel_Warrior Feb 2014 #23

Thanks for caring. proudretiredvet Feb 2014 #26

So rather than ask a direct question as to your intent Pretzel_Warrior Feb 2014 #29

Big miss proudretiredvet Feb 2014 #31

No screaming & yelling here. frogmarch Feb 2014 #24

I came from a family of LOUD people. Texasgal Feb 2014 #25

In that context, I like it. proudretiredvet Feb 2014 #27

My first thought is KT2000 Feb 2014 #28

I like really loud music in bursts…the worst is long, dragged out loud sounds. Tikki Feb 2014 #30