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pipi_k

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134. I don't like being

Mon Apr 6, 2015, 10:22 AM

Apr 2015

misunderstood, so I do try to find just the right words to convey what I'm thinking.

But since it's very difficult for me to put into words the pictures in my head, I don't always succeed.

The weird thing is, sometimes I'll take so much time trying to formulate a written response to something that I just give up in frustration.

And when I do think I've found the right words, sometimes the person I'm replying to will misunderstand anyway. Or...and this is frustrating as hell...someone will jump in out of the blue to bash me over the head. I'm talking someone who hasn't even participated in the thread at all except to give me a verbal smackdown over something he doesn't even understand.

It doesn't get any easier in RL, either. Honestly, there are times when I think, "Fuck it...I'm through talking to people altogether".

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There is a living breathing human being at the other end of your keyboard. [View all] sheshe2 Apr 2015 OP

She.... Hekate Apr 2015 #1

Hey sweetie! sheshe2 Apr 2015 #5

you are sooo right. Thanks for posting. maybe well all think before we type. williesgirl Apr 2015 #2

Humans evovled to use body languge to give full meaning to what people say. Agnosticsherbet Apr 2015 #3

That's true. kentauros Apr 2015 #121

How many of us take the time? It is not easy to get those emotions across in books. Agnosticsherbet Apr 2015 #128

I agree that most people don't take the time. kentauros Apr 2015 #129

I don't like being pipi_k Apr 2015 #134

And you never get to hear the tone of VOICE. Sometimes the spoken word, the inflection, the calimary Apr 2015 #148

You my dear calimary have a way with words. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #198

This is exactly the reason why I'm so often misunderstood in real life JonLP24 Apr 2015 #201

thanks sheshe guillaumeb Apr 2015 #4

"This should pop-up each time anyone hits "post my reply"." sheshe2 Apr 2015 #13

Like this! calimary Apr 2015 #149

I am not an advocate of overuse of the jury system... liberal N proud Apr 2015 #6

I never alert unless it's too obviously a troll seeped through from Discussionist or some such place Cha Apr 2015 #97

Me neither. Jackpine Radical Apr 2015 #138

I don't alert either Cha. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #199

Thank you for writing this. The Velveteen Ocelot Apr 2015 #7

What you said, exactly TVO. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #10

Aho. 2naSalit Apr 2015 #69

This shows how little you know pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #8

~ sheshe2 Apr 2015 #11

Yes, TexasTowelie Apr 2015 #20

Yeah, those really are the mean ones! marym625 Apr 2015 #37

The PHONE COPS? pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #41

yes! The phone cops! marym625 Apr 2015 #43

Color Doctor Johnny Fever and me hiding behind the couch pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #44

They see you back there! marym625 Apr 2015 #46

I love cross-thread references pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #48

I saw your reply here right after conversing with you on the other marym625 Apr 2015 #53

The Phone Cops are real. And far bigger than you imagine. ieoeja Apr 2015 #124

No, wait! I get Johnny Fever! raven mad Apr 2015 #204

Adorable! Cha Apr 2015 #98

DU has the coolest cats around! chknltl Apr 2015 #139

Thank you for posting this, sheshe. femmocrat Apr 2015 #9

Im ESL and thank you for this post mylye2222 Apr 2015 #205

Agree with you , some people are just mean johnnysad Apr 2015 #12

Welcome to DU, johnnysad. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #15

thanks johnnysad Apr 2015 #16

You are so very welcome~ sheshe2 Apr 2015 #24

Better said than I was able to enunciate earlier on another thread. Very clear. BTW, I went to my freshwest Apr 2015 #14

I am deeply touched freshwest. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #19

Wow! pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #31

K&R TexasTowelie Apr 2015 #17

Take care of you TT. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #23

Don't you ever stop posting here, Towelie. KMOD Apr 2015 #32

I love you marym625 Apr 2015 #40

I learned something... pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #18

Yes! sheshe2 Apr 2015 #25

I suspect this happens because of the medium drray23 Apr 2015 #21

Good post. cwydro Apr 2015 #22

cwydro... sheshe2 Apr 2015 #30

Ha. cwydro Apr 2015 #70

I got a hide on a troll's thread for calling him "preposterous," lol pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #80

That's.. Warren DeMontague Apr 2015 #101

Those are very good words, my dear sheshe... CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2015 #26

+1 KMOD Apr 2015 #33

+2 nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #35

Thanks. Your post made me think of this thread Chathamization Apr 2015 #27

Love you, you are always thoughtful treestar Apr 2015 #28

Well said sheshe. Marie Marie Apr 2015 #29

It's just too easy to give a quick answer marlakay Apr 2015 #34

There is a monster thread here I am avoiding. The temptation to open it and read it is strong. Rex Apr 2015 #36

Part of my reference was to an Op I read. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #58

Highly Recommended /nt Dragonfli Apr 2015 #38

Well hello, dragonfli. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #42

Good OP sheshe. You are 100% Right. Dragonfli Apr 2015 #50

You just made my day! Thank you! sheshe2 Apr 2015 #56

k&r Liberal_in_LA Apr 2015 #39

Good, needed post marym625 Apr 2015 #45

Thank you mary. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #200

No, thank you for a much needed post. n/t marym625 Apr 2015 #206

Hear, hear! K&R! nt Mnemosyne Apr 2015 #47

Well said! The degree of cruel snark here has always been perplexing... villager Apr 2015 #49

so so true, you nailed it nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #155

*hangs head and apologizes* Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2015 #51

There is no forgiveness without pennants pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #57

omg The BROOKLYN DODGERS *and* The MILWAUKEE BRAVES ?!!!! WANT !!!! Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2015 #59

My dad was all White Sox until we moved from Chicago to L.A. pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #60

and I still remember seeing Phil Neikro pitch and Hank Aaron hitting a homerun when I was a kid. Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2015 #65

I saw some Dodgers games as a kid... pinboy3niner Apr 2015 #73

And the St. Louis Browns, too! Art_from_Ark Apr 2015 #64

yeah !! a great collection !! Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2015 #66

The only "trash talk" cwydro Apr 2015 #117

thanks for the vote of confidence, cwydro. much appreciated. Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2015 #120

Anytime. cwydro Apr 2015 #125

K & R SoapBox Apr 2015 #52

Great post. It is easy to forget that we really don't know the situation of those rhett o rick Apr 2015 #54

Well Rhett! sheshe2 Apr 2015 #67

With no sense of community, Thespian2 Apr 2015 #55

There are people at the other end of the discussion itself, too Scootaloo Apr 2015 #61

Well Scoot.... sheshe2 Apr 2015 #63

No, it didn't go over my head, I simply have a different opinion than you do Scootaloo Apr 2015 #68

I thank you so very much for responding to the Op. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #71

My response is that i don't feel that everyone deserves "nice treatment" Scootaloo Apr 2015 #72

Hey Scoot. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #75

I'm not talking politics either Scootaloo Apr 2015 #84

Scoot, I sense a communication breakdown.... Violet_Crumble Apr 2015 #104

... LittleBlue Apr 2015 #146

I agree. i think anyone who advocates rape or race-based teenager murders, doesnt deserve our respect Warren DeMontague Apr 2015 #100

It's understandible that you might want to punish those that you think rhett o rick Apr 2015 #130

As someone who has been unfairly labeled and bullied by some in this thread, I agree! Vattel Apr 2015 #176

+1 Marr Apr 2015 #76

So surprised to see you, Marr. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #79

Ah-- don't let me interrupt. Marr Apr 2015 #81

So, you and Scoot are being so polite to me? sheshe2 Apr 2015 #83

This is a discussion board. Marr Apr 2015 #86

... sheshe2 Apr 2015 #87

Yes, it's a nice sentiment. /nt Marr Apr 2015 #89

... sheshe2 Apr 2015 #90

Since reading your OP, I've seen another post on this forum that, I think... Marr Apr 2015 #91

The point of my Op that eludes you... sheshe2 Apr 2015 #92

Thought maybe you could use this marym625 Apr 2015 #110

... sheshe2 Apr 2015 #88

So much for "being nice" pipi_k Apr 2015 #123

+1. But you know, "being nice" is a lecture given to little people. closeupready Apr 2015 #131

+1, excellent point. Marr Apr 2015 #77

Is it Bravo or Brava sheshe2 Apr 2015 #82

Your point didn't go over my head at all. Marr Apr 2015 #85

I don't think the OP refers to people being tough or angry in political debate LeftishBrit Apr 2015 #183

"Sneering" and mocking other members is openly promoted on DU. closeupready Apr 2015 #191

Good post BrotherIvan Apr 2015 #62

Mahalo, sheshe2. Major Hogwash Apr 2015 #74

Thank you for your post.... chillfactor Apr 2015 #78

Yes NBachers Apr 2015 #93

Yes sheshe2 Apr 2015 #94

I was in a thread earlier today- I knew where the pain was coming from, and I left it alone NBachers Apr 2015 #95

Brilliant post, she.. Mahalo! the gratuitiously insulting posts because others don't agree with Cha Apr 2015 #96

Speaking of bullying, Idaho's legislature is passing an "anti-bullying" law this week. Major Hogwash Apr 2015 #156

Good on the Republicon legislature and the Repub Gov, Major! It's very important for Cha Apr 2015 #177

Thank you Cha. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #161

Some people take DU way too fucking seriously, for starts. Warren DeMontague Apr 2015 #99

beautiful! (and let's remember who we are) napkinz Apr 2015 #102

That is perfect. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #194

I hope you saw what you caused to happen marym625 Apr 2015 #103

For sure. Skidmore Apr 2015 #105

Thank you Sidmore. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #195

Great post. nt raccoon Apr 2015 #106

Looking at screen names in this thread, plenty of bullies here who closeupready Apr 2015 #107

the meanness happens in real life too allan01 Apr 2015 #108

This!!!! The truth! mfcorey1 Apr 2015 #109

I have been away from DU brer cat Apr 2015 #111

Kicking a thread we all need to read. In_The_Wind Apr 2015 #112

Brava, ITW. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #197

Prove it. randome Apr 2015 #113

Thanks for posting, sheshe. Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #114

+1,000 malaise Apr 2015 #115

This is a very good and important post. stillwaiting Apr 2015 #116

Well said - thank you for posting. el_bryanto Apr 2015 #118

Hm. WilliamPitt Apr 2015 #119

Oh please. JTFrog Apr 2015 #136

"Long time DU tradition"? cui bono Apr 2015 #140

Is this the first Democratic President in history? JTFrog Apr 2015 #142

Okay, I took what you said to mean sitting Dem Presidents. I stand corrected. cui bono Apr 2015 #162

Constructive criticism is one thing... JTFrog Apr 2015 #187

Thank JTFrog. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #196

Hmm. Major Hogwash Apr 2015 #154

Okay William.... sheshe2 Apr 2015 #179

So true and its sadly forced me to put such cstanleytech Apr 2015 #122

The minute someone gets nasty, sulphurdunn Apr 2015 #126

Thank you for this. aikoaiko Apr 2015 #127

DU has been family since get-go. raven mad Apr 2015 #132

Back at you, raven mad. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #189

MAJOR hugs to you, sheshe = raven mad Apr 2015 #203

"not real life"... Helen Borg Apr 2015 #133

Great post, sheshe2. spooky3 Apr 2015 #135

Great post. But I haven't been around for a couple of days... ChisolmTrailDem Apr 2015 #137

she, I agree with the sentiment of your OP, however... cui bono Apr 2015 #141

Results... Major Nikon Apr 2015 #144

Thank you. The alerter clearly must have personal bias involved. cui bono Apr 2015 #164

I was juror #3, your post was a call out no matter how you try to dress it up KittyWampus Apr 2015 #173

The hypocrisy is exactly what my post was about. cui bono Apr 2015 #180

FYI. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #175

No sheshe, my post was not based on personal bias. I know you have noticed that I rec your threads. cui bono Apr 2015 #181

I feel sad for you that you believe my Op to be a call out. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #182

sheshe... your OP doesn't mention anything about being mean to a critically ill member so I did not cui bono Apr 2015 #193

Your post was alerted on LittleBlue Apr 2015 #147

Thanks. The alerter clearly missed the point. cui bono Apr 2015 #165

Since you missed the point I'll make up for your unrec. great white snark Apr 2015 #150

Oh the irony. n/t cui bono Apr 2015 #163

Thank you great whiteb snark! sheshe2 Apr 2015 #185

I know, and that's what disturbs me more than what the people are saying MisterP Apr 2015 #143

Sometimes the living, breathing human being is acting badly. Gormy Cuss Apr 2015 #145

He must be really, really tiny. A HERETIC I AM Apr 2015 #151

K&R! n/t RKP5637 Apr 2015 #152

Thank you, once again, sheshe2, for just being you. Major Hogwash Apr 2015 #153

thanks MH! sheshe2 Apr 2015 #188

You're the best!! Major Hogwash Apr 2015 #202

Don't be mad. Be thankful that a handful ran, not walked, RAN to beautifully illustrate exactly Number23 Apr 2015 #157

+1 nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #158

I am not sweating it, Number23. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #168

You did the right thing. Major Hogwash Apr 2015 #170

thank you for posting. You are right samsingh Apr 2015 #159

There is not! I double-checked all my cables. tclambert Apr 2015 #160

An excellent post. Well done, and much needed. Thanks! K&R n/t ms liberty Apr 2015 #166

K&R BumRushDaShow Apr 2015 #167

rec #222 BlancheSplanchnik Apr 2015 #169

if someone calls me guillaumeb Apr 2015 #171

All this time, I thought I was talking to robots and automatons on these online forums. Jamaal510 Apr 2015 #172

Well, there was Grovelbot! LeftishBrit Apr 2015 #184

+100000000 Blue_Tires Apr 2015 #174

Good thread sheshe2 bearssoapbox Apr 2015 #178

a good reminder for us all steve2470 Apr 2015 #186

HUGE K & R !!! - THANK YOU !!! WillyT Apr 2015 #190

On the internet people can be their nasty selves because it's anonymous. Beacool Apr 2015 #192

Kick, for that informative side-by-side comparison. DisgustipatedinCA May 2015 #207