Columbia Student Sues University, Says Rape Accuser Has Ruined His Reputation

[KitSileya]

29. Too many women have tried to have relationships with their rapists

After he raped them, in order to convince themselves that they weren't rape. Most rapes are acquaintance rapes, and a rape victim often has trouble reconciling the idea of rape as something that is done by strangers jumping from bushes, and rape done by someone they know, someone they like, even, someone they trusted. Rapists are usually very good at being likable - it is how they manage to rape so many and still have people in their corner. They often deliberately cultivate cover personas that are 'good guys'. And the victims have the cultural narrative about how good guys don't rape, it must have been a misunderstanding, and their bodies and subconscious telling them differently, and so in the immediate aftermath of the rape, they try to silence their alarms by convincing themselves it was love, because if it was love, it wasn't rape, and if it wasn't rape, they don't have to face the horridness of what the rapist did to them. That Sulkowicz wrote and said the things she did is in no way evidence that it wasn't rape.

Statistically speaking, you have 92-98% of being right if you believe her, and 2-8% chance of being right if you believe him. In fact, considering that she named a name, the stats are more in her favor. I know who I believe in he said, she said situations, especially considering the consequences.

And that he considers it harassment - well, lets compare it to harassment, a lesser crime than rape. I mean, is he being pressured to drop it like she was? Has his past been scrutinized, his sexual history looked over with a fine-tooth comb? Has he been told that if he smiles or seems to enjoy himself after being falsely accused, obviously it mustn't be false? Are false accusations a source of jokes and is he being told it is a compliment to be falsely accused? Is he subjected to PSAs and endless campaigns about how to avoid being falsely accused without any reference to women who might falsely accuse? Does he have to face probing questions about whether he promised her a relationship, did he give her the impression he would marry her, was he dressed inappropriately, is he sure he didn't lead her on to falsely accuse? Did he have to pay for the gathering of evidence in his own case? No, then fuck it. Being raped is always worse than being falsely accused of raping someone, and odds are, he did it. Even convicted rapists don't have their careers destroyed - witness Mike Tyson et. al.