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Il_Coniglietto

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55. Exactly!

Wed May 25, 2016, 01:40 PM

May 2016

I was in a situation similar to yours a few years ago. I was working full-time at minimum wage, making just enough money to pay rent, eat, and save what little was left over. I had to put school off for the longest time because I simply couldn't afford it. Clothes, electronics, a social life? No money for them. I just worked, slept and saved, for far more years than I'd have liked. Now I'm working and in college finally, but I had to move back home so I could pay for it (my rent was over 75% of my budget when I lived alone/had a roommate). Still can't seem to let go of some of my old frugal habits though, but at least I'm saving a lot more now and that degree is in sight!

It's easy for some to dismiss our generation as lazy, entitled, sensitive, "don't know hard work" whiners. I'm sure parents in the 1960s felt the same way about their hippy kids. But maybe, just maybe, we are doing the best we can. And it would be awful PROGRESSIVE of some of you to recognize that.

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Young people more likely to live with parents now than any time in modern history [View all] Jesus Malverde May 2016 OP

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Thank you! Il_Coniglietto May 2016 #59

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