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In reply to the discussion: Ironically, once you decide a person or group is "stupid," you are relieved from thinking about them [View all]bravenak
(34,648 posts)I do not appreciate people who are supposed to be on my side telling me that I am DEHUMANIZING people who actually never saw me as human in the first place. With people who voted to deport my family members; my grandad was not legal and was deported by the USA leaving my grandma, who also had no papers but was born here, alone to raise ten fucking kids ALONE.
To sympatize with folks who have no sympathy for little dark folks like me, and tell me I'm dehumanizing them by calling them STUPID, is to tell me that they are more valuable than I am. These posts imploring understanding should go to them, not to us.
To me, it is basically saying I need to sympathize with my would be oppressors and try to change their minds and to NOT piss them off by calling them like I see them.
If folks spent more time shaming deplorables over the years, rather than shaming us for calling them out, we may have gotten somewhere by now. It is also hurtful to know that my allies care more about the feeling of white folks who want to deport me, than for me who is in actual danger.
They want us to not call stupid stupid, racist racist, and sexists sexist, all in order to try to be 'better' than they are. Same folks would tell abolitionists to be kinder to slavers and realize they are human too, as they beat the dog shit out of me. And tell me not to call them 'stupid' because tgat provojes them. Not cool. Either be on my side or be on theirs. Stop trying to have it both ways is what I want to say to the op.