You can be personally opposed to abortion and fully support a woman's right to terminate a pregnancy

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31. but what did DSB do?!

if you haven't been in the situation all you can do is speculate. my friend, still a good friend, drove me to the clinic and felt the need to let me know that if it was her, she would have the baby and give it up for adoption. Then later she had an abortion herself, twice.

The analogy that jumps to mind is when people tell me they would kill the woman who killed my child. Well you do not know what you'll do when your child is killed until it happens. i at least knew that before Bekah died. I would wonder whether I would simply fall down dead when given the news. It turned out I did not fall down dead. It turns out that even if I believe that killing her killer would constitute justice, it would put such a stain on my soul that I wouldn't get to be with Bekah when I die.

You assume so much but it really sounds to me that you have not been faced with the actual situation.

I'm an old hippie. almost all of my friends had abortions, some more than one. this was the 1970s before AIDS and herpes, and later, in the 1980s. Before state legislatures passing ridiculous and punishing bills to stop women from having abortions. Roe v Wade was the law of the land, and it still is.

I appreciate your willingness to concede that it is her body, her choice. My daughter's father said that immediately after i let him know i was pregnant. But when i decided to have her, he changed. he had people try to talk me into having an abortion. he asked me what i'd do if he said choose, me or the baby. Eventually he accepted my choice and she was one of the greatest joys and loves of his life, no 2 ways about it. My point is he didn't really know how he would react until he found himself in the situation. nobody does.