So my straight employee was sexually harassed last night by 2 gay men in front of his wife

[moriah]

251. This is almost like the person who seemed to suggest...

... that alcohol-facilitated sexual assault "wasn't the same" when it was two openly gay men compared to a heterosexual woman and a man.

Now, I'll admit my sex has some stereotypical weaknesses. We do have smaller bodies so probably lower alcohol tolerance, just as we are generally smaller framed than men so probably physically weaker than them. But notice how many "probably"s there were. As in, there are women who can drink a man under the table, there are women who can pound a guy in the dirt.

But it doesn't matter if a person js a guy or a girl. Whatever their alcohol tolerance is, whatever drugs might be influencing their tolerance, when a person is unconscious from anything you take care of them, you don't take advantage of them.

And let me ask you this. You, I'm sure, know that boys are sexually abused. Most males who sexually abuse boys people aren't "gay", even if they choose a male victim. They choose targets of opportunity (just as in prison men rape who aren't "gay", but found a way to humiliate/hold power over someone and get their rocks off at the same time). They might prefer girls, but if all they have is a boy available, there's not that much difference between their bodies pre-puberty besides the actual genitals. Essentially, if they're hairless, they're game. It's sad, but true.

And a child doesn't understand this. It has effects whether the victim was going to be straight, bisexual, or gay once they actually grow up enough to understand sex and sexuality and figure out those feelings. I know from hearing my father's experiences as a bisexual man. He really had a very difficult time trying to figure out if it was his feelings or the abuse, and numbed himself often to have sex. Women who are victims of childhood sexual assault, by men or women, often have bad reactions to sexual touch they don't want, that triggers them, too.

Would you potentially have a different reaction to a man grabbing your ass if it triggered you into remembering a sexual assault?

And given that even though male on male child sexual assault is underreported precisely because of the stigma of "gay" being attached in the child's mind, and we know there are enough documented and reported incidents to say it's far from uncommon... is it fair to assume *only* women have experienced power differential dynamic abuse from men enough to take them seriously vs dismiss a guy who got his ass grabbed?