So my straight employee was sexually harassed last night by 2 gay men in front of his wife

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373. No I didn't. I never used the word "assault." And I didn't say anything about when

the touches occurred. None of us know that. All I said was that the story in the OP doesn't preclude the possibility that the employee reacted by backing up, but the unwanted attention continued.

I've said repeatedly that my personal opinion is that the pestering was not a real invitation of any kind, but a joke. Some guys with drinks in their hands were having fun at the expense of the person they were harassing.

I was surrounded by a group of men once, when I was a young teenager. They scared me with the comments they were making to me, but they were just having fun at my expense. They weren't intending to take it any farther -- I was walking on the sidewalk past their worksite -- but when you're in the midst of that kind of situation you don't know how to respond.

Those guys were all straight. The guys in the OP were gay. But anyone is capable of behaving like a jerk, straight or gay.