NJ court ruling blocking newborn's dad from delivery room is first in nation

[avebury]

212. My issues with her are as follows:

1. She is denying her daughter her father's surname.
2. She is not even legally required to tell the father when the child is born. He has no legal right to that knowledge.

If she had not been in labor during the hearing she could, if she desired, left town and not let him know where she went. She could have, is she desired, go to a state with loose adoptions laws, like Utah and give the child away without the father's consent. (We know that at least one woman has already done this). Based upon 1) how badly their relationship had deteriorated and 2) how much she wished to be an single parent what would prevent her from running off and giving the baby away in the scenario outlined at the beginning of the paragraph? Absolutely nothing!

It is one thing to decide who is or is not in a birthing room. That may be deemed the decision of the patient. However, once the child is born it becomes a patient in his/her own rights in the hospital. At that point, both parents should have equal, legal right to spend time with their baby in order to bond with the baby which is a crucial time for baby and parents. Under the judge's ruling, who knows when a father might learn about the birth of his child. That was what happened to the guy whose ex gave their baby away. She claimed that she did not know where the guy was despite knowing he was in the military and that he was stationed at a military base in another state. This was a guy who made frequent phone calls to find out how she was and how the pregnancy was going. He had to get another family member to finally find out what happened. It was definitely an illegal adoption but who knows if he will ever get his child.

If:
1. A man makes every effort to be a parent to his child
2. There has never been anything to prove that he is unfit to be a parent
3. It is wrong to deny that parent/child relationship while
4. Expecting him to financially support the child.

Any parent (Mom or Dad) who denigrates the other parent and tries to deny his/her child from having a relationship with the other parent will most likely live to regret it unless the other parent truly is an unfit parent (which the child is better of figuring it out himself/herself). It is never a good idea for one parent to trash another parents because children are usually smart enough to figure things out for themselves.