You said "we dispensed with the steps and focused on him". At least where I'm from and have traveled, that is a cardinal rule throughout the Program! As you know, newcomers are the most important person in the room. That focus meant a lot to me in the early days. In a meeting in Casper, Wyoming, the normal meeting stopped for the newcomer and we went around the room and each person shared a piece of their story. Very powerful!
I was in a men's group for quite a while (although technically such groups should not exist) and one night a lady dropped in. One fool got up to tell her it was a men-only group and we had to promptly let him know we don't do that, EVER. Generally, though, there was great respect between our group and a parallel lady's group, thereby providing a little more open atmosphere for the shy folks.
You brought back some traveler memories from my trips up North (mostly in Wisconsin) where they plowed the snow toward the middle in small towns. I remember in Tomahawk, WI they cut slots out in the huge bank of snow so you could cross over to the opposite side of the town square. Very rare to call school out up there 'cause they all have large numbers of plows and haulers.
I hope you can somehow attract more attendance to your favorite meeting and I know what you're going through. My last little home group got down to 3 or 4 per meeting for quite a while, and then seemed to just rebuild itself in a few months. I think we started getting people from a treatment center and maybe some were tired of groups that had grown too large. It's also not unheard of to attend other meetings to let them know you need support.
Looking forward to the big thaw! My feet have been cold long enough!.......
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