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Scrivener7

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50. There is a lot in that story that is the same as my experience. My life was going well, but

Sun Sep 12, 2021, 07:29 PM

Sep 2021

all of a sudden I knew I wasn't going to be fulfilled until I did something that mattered to me.

But what it sounds like you are heading toward is wanting a successful relationship. The unavailable thing is no good. You know that. But if my experience showed me anything, it is that we can have what we want.(With someone who is available.) If we do the work and if we are practical about it and if we know nothing is ever perfect, we can build the things we want. These feelings of dissatisfaction are a great thing. It is really important to pay attention to them. They point us away from what we don't want and toward what we do.

Good luck!

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Has anyone here ever gone through a mid-life crisis? [View all] smirkymonkey Sep 2021 OP

I have not. But -- I'm reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, seems quite relevant. byronius Sep 2021 #1

Thank you! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #4

My favorite concept from the Stoics is TxGuitar Sep 2021 #34

Yes, I believe that completely. smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #54

I remember the day Roy Rolling Sep 2021 #2

You won't know where the half way mark was until you get to the end. PWPippinesq Sep 2021 #3

Me too... 79 October 26th. 3Hotdogs Sep 2021 #12

Yep, I have never really had a problem w/ aging because the older I get, the smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #5

It's only a crisis if you make it one. Questions are normal. This is an opportunity, not a crisis Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2021 #6

Best advice of all. n/t. NNadir Sep 2021 #7

Thank you. Very good advice. smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #26

"Growing old is like climbing a mountain; your breath gets shorter but your views more expansive." NNadir Sep 2021 #8

I like that perspective on the "growing" part of growing old. Old is a byproduct of growing Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2021 #10

I'd add "er" to the old. we can do it Sep 2021 #11

I like that quote! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #27

it's never too late. barbtries Sep 2021 #9

I think a part of it is that I am thinking of making some life changes - for the better, and smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #28

the unknown is scary. barbtries Sep 2021 #33

Thank you, barbtries! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #35

Gail Sheehy did one or two books on psychological stages of life. It is accurate but it takes some 3Hotdogs Sep 2021 #13

I was just checking her books out on Amazon and put them on my Wishlist. smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #36

If You Haven't See Tim Urban's Ted Talk On Procrastination modrepub Sep 2021 #14

Almost made me spurt my coffee - unexpectedly funny Alice Kramden Sep 2021 #29

That was great! Thank you! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #37

Yes currently in the middle of one. róisín_dubh Sep 2021 #15

Good for you! It is a good age to work on getting things sorted out. smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #38

Thanks! Same to you. róisín_dubh Sep 2021 #51

I think I did, though it happened when I was 36 to 39, so I don't consider it to have been Scrivener7 Sep 2021 #16

I am really glad that things worked out for you! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #40

There is a lot in that story that is the same as my experience. My life was going well, but Scrivener7 Sep 2021 #50

Whatever you do, don't buy a convertible or get plastic surgery. It won't help and you will have japple Sep 2021 #17

hey wait a minute, its not such a bad idea RazzleCat Sep 2021 #18

I had a purple car once Alice Kramden Sep 2021 #30

Heh heh! Don't worry! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #41

Hey, I bought a convertible when I turned 40. LakeArenal Sep 2021 #52

Yes PJMcK Sep 2021 #19

Thanks PJMcK! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #42

Does divorcing after 23 years and MOMFUDSKI Sep 2021 #20

2019 started with a feeling of dread... Bluethroughu Sep 2021 #21

Thanks for sharing your experience, Blue! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #43

Thank you smirkymonkey... Bluethroughu Sep 2021 #55

I really love this thread Alice Kramden Sep 2021 #22

Exactly! Bluethroughu Sep 2021 #24

I love when, early on a Sunday, Alice Kramden Sep 2021 #32

Thanks Alice! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #44

I can suggest a great book SheltieLover Sep 2021 #23

Hi Sheltie Lover! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #45

Hi SheltieLover Sep 2021 #47

At 62, I feel my best years are ahead of me. Looking fwd to the future. Kaleva Sep 2021 #25

That's a good attitude, Kaleva. smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #46

I've had to learn how to do things differently Kaleva Sep 2021 #58

+1. n/t LuckyCharms Sep 2021 #56

I think so, back in the days when I still gave a crap about... Buckeye_Democrat Sep 2021 #31

Thank YOU, Buckeye! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #48

I have dealt with "shouldaCouldaWouldas" for quite some time yellowdogintexas Sep 2021 #39

Yes, that is another big thing for me. smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #49

This sounds schmaltzy but.... LakeArenal Sep 2021 #53

Yeah, maybe. Got me locked up in the psych ward. hunter Sep 2021 #57