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Thu May 30, 2024, 02:18 AM May 30

update on my special needs adult daughter abducted from our home last year by her sister (Long Covid mental health issue [View all]


Some of you may remember my telling the story here (in great distress) about my daughter J, who I have sheltered all of her life (she's now 53) being taken by her older sister as I was coming home from recovering from surgery -- taken in what has been described to me as a "psychotic break". Taken to her own home 200 miles away to be a domestic helper and essentially valet. There are two pre-teen twins in that home who are high energy and high drama as only a pre-teen girl can be.

J and I have lived together all her life; she is intellectually delayed and has a minor motor defect and seizure disorder. We lived together harmoniously and well. She was able to take public transportation to the grocery store and shop, able to go anywhere in the area as it is safe and very familiar. We have lived in this apartment for 13 years, in a beautiful river-front neighborhood with really good neighbors. She had her hobbies and interests here, I had/have the Internet.

So. All contact was cut off for me when she was abducted. I have not talked or heard from J in more than a year now.

And then this year I learned that J. had been moved into a little apartment alone. She lives alone, in a strange town that the FBI designates as "the most dangerous city in America" in terms of violent crime statistics. It is a sanctuary city where thousands of displaced people are without housing. She does not go to the grocery store. She does not go for a walk. She does not communicate with any neighbors. She is alone in the little apartment with her cat and watches TV and does some sewing and hopes her sister will come by to take her to the store. (Sister this spring was off on a holiday in Scotland for two weeks, J was alone all that time.)

I know these things because my son, her brother, had been in touch via text with her several times a week. He lives 2,000 miles away. My own sister has begun to text J, but she is 200 miles away and very careful about what she is saying because we are pretty sure that sister is monitoring J's phone. I do not know J's address at this little apartment. If I knew the location, I would go.

My heart is breaking every day. I did, last year, go to Adult Protective Services because emotional abuse of a vulnerable adult is a misdemeanor crime. APS told me there was nothing they could do.

J is not getting mail at her apartment address. And I don't have the address. I tried the online search functions and no current address turned up. Now I am wondering what a private investigator would charge to simply locate her with no contact and provide that information to me. Anyone know?

Thanks for listening. GW

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