Serious post regarding Suicide. Don't click on if you may be triggered...

[haele]

41. People handle pain differently. What seems like a little setback to me,

Could be a catastrophic failure to someone else.
What can be a regular minor annoyance to you could be just another burden on me that I'm just not willing to bear much more.
Ya, there are some people who use attempts to tell other they need help and go too far to call attention to that need, but there are other people who internalize exhausting problems and painful experiences be a point where they can't handle the pain anymore and just want out.
Is it selfish because of the hurt and shock - and guilt - it leaves to the living? Maybe. There's a lot of "woulda, coulda, shoulda" that happens afterwards where there's no clear answer, because ultimately, it was a personal decision.
And no one, no one else can judge, as painful as the question is, as to why that decision was made might be to those left behind. Only (if possible), find the triggers that caused this to happen - and if the pain was inflicted through malice or indifferent neglect, take measures to ensure someone else who might not have the strength to weather abuse or a preventable failure in "the system" takes their own life - or worse, takes others with them.

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sorry your friend's nephew found himself in a situation where he felt that was the only solution.

Take care of yourself and those around you. Listen. You are never alone. A burden shared is a lightened load that can usually be resolved with time to rest and recover before it becomes too much one can't see an end to.



Haele