The Psychology of Denying Overpopulation, Prof Kenrick, Arizona State

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10. She was projecting who she would be without kids onto you. Obviously kids

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are the greatest people in her life and the best, most vital thing she ever did. That she will live forever through them too. That gives her meaning, love, meaning, love, meaning, love and she can't think of finding that in another way. So she looks at you and sees emptyness which would be her with no kids and it is not you. She is projecting her fears onto you. People do that all the time. For sure you are missing important things having children gives you but she doesn't have the good things in your life like the thrill of invention. So you are both missing things. But both of you made choices that worked out a rewarding life. So don't look at what you are missing. Look at each others gifts. At least while you are aquaintances. If you got closer it would be good to look at both the good and bad in people and see if it is a match. But having kids is good if you have them. Inventing things is good too. Not doing either of these things is not bad. i didn't learn about evil until i was much older than i should have. I let people project on me in horrible ways. Hope your week goes better.