Welcome to DU!
The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards.
Join the community:
Create a free account
Support DU (and get rid of ads!):
Become a Star Member
Latest Breaking News
General Discussion
The DU Lounge
All Forums
Issue Forums
Culture Forums
Alliance Forums
Region Forums
Support Forums
Help & Search
Mental Health Support
In reply to the discussion: It's Father's Day. My father is dead and I don't miss him at all. [View all]eppur_se_muova
(36,261 posts)23. I can sympathize. My dad was not as cruel as all that, but he just didn't like people at all ...
... and made no exceptions for his own family, by blood or marriage. I think he got married and had kids because that was what men were expected to do. He would have been perfectly happy if we had simply disappeared when he didn't need us present to ostensibly verify that he was a normal husband and father. We didn't bother with a funeral, and that wasn't just because of COVID. Almost no one noticed when he died, and no one outside his family has contacted us. He's missed by no one, least of all his family (actually, both of them -- he married twice, both unsuccessfully). That's a pretty sad comment about what kind of life he chose to lead.
Life is better without people like that.
Edit history
Please sign in to view edit histories.
36 replies
= new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight:
NoneDon't highlight anything
5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies
RecommendedHighlight replies with 5 or more recommendations
It's Father's Day. My father is dead and I don't miss him at all. [View all]
no_hypocrisy
Jun 2022
OP
My mother was hateful to me in a similar way. I am quite sure it was not a misguided love.
Scrivener7
Jun 2022
#2
This is insensitive. No-hypocrisy has described an abusive situation, one which was surely
Scrivener7
Jun 2022
#20
This is not a courtroom. You are not a judge or jury. No one has asked you to make a judgement.
Scrivener7
Jun 2022
#32
I know what you mean. At one time, my father decided that saying "I love you" would somehow ...
eppur_se_muova
Jun 2022
#24
I feel the same. My mothers ex biologic partner was not a good man. He left pain & chaos behind
irisblue
Jun 2022
#5
Good for you. You don't know owe cruelty anything. Especially cruelty against a child.
MLAA
Jun 2022
#19
I can sympathize. My dad was not as cruel as all that, but he just didn't like people at all ...
eppur_se_muova
Jun 2022
#23