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In reply to the discussion: Sudden death of my brother, 2 months after my father died of pancreatic cancer [View all]Karadeniz
(22,537 posts)12. Family... they'll drive you crazy! The widow's behavior was wrong on every imaginable level. The
God your sister apparently believes in does not exist, at least not in Christianity... unless one worships Zeus, one shouldn't expect deity to meddle in human affairs. Sis needs to stare at the parable of the prodigal son until she's figured out rudimentary Christian theology.
My advice is to privately mourn your brother as you wish. As for your sisters, I'd let things settle down for a while. They may want to resume contact, but they don't sound like people you can really be intimate with. But, when Covid is past, they'll still be people you can share memories of your common past with.
A crisis is not the time to be stirring things up. I'm sorry it's happened to you.
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Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
OP
My aunt walk away from me two decades ago because of something I said, that I cannot believe
LizBeth
Jan 2021
#4
I'm sorry for your loss and that you had to deal with that difficult decision
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#10
Oh my God, Dark n Stormy Knight! I am so very sorry for the loss of your brother and father!
LaMouffette
Jan 2021
#7
No need to apologize! I was brought up to be Catholic, too, but it just didn't "take."
LaMouffette
Jan 2021
#24
Family... they'll drive you crazy! The widow's behavior was wrong on every imaginable level. The
Karadeniz
Jan 2021
#12
Thank you, Karadeniz. In many ways you and I are on the same page about all this.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#20
Your mother might provide the motivation for the whole clan to get together amicably... sounds
Karadeniz
Jan 2021
#23
It's funny you should say that, because that's not at all how her daughters see her.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#35
Well, you know how to pick'em! I really don't know why some people have children if they don't want
Karadeniz
Jan 2021
#57
Faux pas, thank you for your kind reply. I too was the "odd one out" all though my life,
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#22
Reading this, and your brother's outreach on Christmas Eve impresses to me that your Sister-On-Law
TheBlackAdder
Jan 2021
#21
Adder, I love that you are thinking deeply about the family dynamics
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#26
I have spent more money on therapists in my life than I care to recall.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#39
Catwoman, thank you for sharing your experience and for your kind and suportive words.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#29
Boundaries, clarity and self compassion. If you can get yourself to focus, the meditation could be
JudyM
Jan 2021
#56
Sorry for your loss and that you are going through this. You have a right to your feelings.
58Sunliner
Jan 2021
#37
Thank you. I know that that means I also have to understand that others have that same right.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#40
I am so sorry that you lost your father and brother so tragically and in such a short
Tanuki
Jan 2021
#47
In case anyone sees this, I checked in here, but then realized it's not a good idea at the moment.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#58