Bereavement
In reply to the discussion: Sudden death of my brother, 2 months after my father died of pancreatic cancer [View all]Karadeniz
(22,540 posts)To build self-confidence, be proud and show it, all the things they should. My mother was a cold fish and I felt more like a duty. Actually, she was a pretty good mom when we were preschool. She had the best, hearty laugh. By the time we were in college, some sort of mental illness had set in...thinking about the times she beat me up, it started in elementary school. By college, she'd fly off the handle any time things went wrong... burnt biscuits, lost address book. Maybe she was bipolar, but we'll never know since she was perfect and would never admit that she was abnormal. Since Trump, I wonder if she didn't have a touch of narcissism. Woe betide the person who disagreed with her or criticized her! Then she could turn around and do something really funny and you'd have to laugh with her.
After becoming a stepmother to very hostile stepchildren, I finally figured out the secret to life! It isn't necessary to be loved, much less unconditionally. What is necessary is to love. If family's uncooperative
Love a pet or a cause.
Whew!