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3catwoman3

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3. After my brother died so young at only...
Tue Jul 19, 2022, 11:57 AM
Jul 2022

Last edited Tue Jul 19, 2022, 03:51 PM - Edit history (2)

…23, way back in 1978, there were days when I couldn’t tell who I felt sadder for - him, because his life was cut short, or me, because he was no longer in my life. All these years later, it’s still like that.

I learned an interesting word here on DU not too long ago - yahrzeit. From Judaism, as many here will know. A candle lighting ritual perform at the “anniversary” of the death of a parent, sibling, child or spouse.

It must come from the German - Jahr = year/ zeit = time. A year’s time. Use of the word “anniversary” has never felt quite right to me for marking the time since a loss, as I usually think of an anniversary as being something to celebrate.

for you and for your cherished Bekah.

edited for typo - "never" in 3rd paragraph initially typed as "very"

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