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Bereavement
In reply to the discussion: Lost my mom on Saturday. [View all]brer cat
(24,565 posts)6. I'm very sorry for your loss.
It sounds like you did the best you could, and I hope this guilt will pass. None of us are saints with infinite patience. If we look hard enough we will find instances where we could have done something differently, but second guessing yourself leads to needless suffering.
Take care of yourself, grieve when and how you need.
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Please take care of yourself. My mom died over 30 years ago, I still suffer guilt sometimes
Walleye
Sep 2022
#1
I am sorry for your loss but do not beat up yourself. Sounds to me as if you did your best under
LoisB
Sep 2022
#7
I think you did a wonderful job. You kept her pain free as she negotiated her own passing.
MLAA
Sep 2022
#9
I, too, had to make the decision about hospice for my mother. There are no easy answers and constant
alwaysinasnit
Sep 2022
#19
As a former hospice nurse I must say to you Be KIND to yourself. She wouldn't want it
flying_wahini
Sep 2022
#20
My condolences to you and my sense is that you are a remarkable caretaker, person
erronis
Sep 2022
#21
It sounds like you did a great job and I'm sure your mom appreciated all your care and concern.
zuul
Sep 2022
#24
Dear friend, you have no cause to feel guilty. You gave your mother the best care anyone could
japple
Sep 2022
#27