Reply #20: Well said! [View All]

[mamalone]

Three of my 5 kids are adopted...my youngest (now 5) was with me for 3.5 yrs before we were able to finalize. His birthmom relinquished her rights shortly after he was born, but the birthfather refused to sign away his. He didn't want anything to do with the little guy..never so much as asked for a picture. He was ticked at the birthmother though..knew she wanted him to be adopted by us, so he wouldn't allow him to be released. We ended up having to track him across the country with a private investigator. Found that he was being sued for child support for another of his progeny, so my lawyer met him outside the coutroom door, papers in hand. My lawyer told him, "Listen, this woman wants nothing from you, not a red cent, just your signature, why don't you give it to her?" Thankfully he did, we had to wait another 45 days to make sure he didn't want to change his mind:eyes: On day 46 we filed to finalize..what a relief! I can't tell you how many nights I awoke in a cold sweat during those uncertain 3.5 yrs, afraid that I would lose him. You can say what you want about children being resilient, but I don't buy it. To a child that young the parent(s) are their entire world. My son was so bonded to me, taking him away and placing him with strangers would have destroyed him..you might just as well have taken his heart out of his little chest and run it through a meat grinder. Physically he would have survived, but emotionally..spiritually it would have been the end of him. I am heartsick for this family and heartbroken for this dear little boy....