Reply #69: Hi Dave...good to "see" you again.. [View All]

[Sugarbleus]

I had NO idea you were dealing with such matters in your home. Boy, does my heart go out to you!

I read your story further up the thread. My goodness you do have your hands full. I'm so very sorry to learn of your BPD daughter with all of her extremes. What a trial that has to be for you folks.

I have watched documentaries, read books, heard stories, and know of people with children (or they themselves) who have pronounced cases of BPD.

One woman I know is STILL dealing with a 40 year old son who wouldn't stay on his medications. He'd go off of them, get drunk, sneak into her home when she was away, have parties and run amok through the neighborhood banging on doors waking neighbors up for money, food, or whatever. This woman was on vacation when her neighbor called to tell her what the son was doing. She came back but spent the night in a hotel instead of going home. The police had to track him down where eventually they nabbed him and put him in a facility (with meds) 100 miles away. She was AFRAID to go home. :(

I know others who seem to get along pretty well. Their cases are less extreme. They are pretty funny acutally (witty I mean). As long as they have friends and family around to help them out of minor scrapes once in awhile, they live out their lives fairly okay..certainly not threatening to anyone; usually only harmful, by risky behavior, to themselves alone.

My DT would get wilder when she was using substances. Sometimes the substances (drugs) calmed her down; other times they sent her into a frenzy. Not only to find cash for her next fix, but because the illicit drugs just caused her mood disorders to zoom out of control. At one point, my DT freaked us out when she'd start this screaming and whining and curseing and frothing at the mouth over NOT getting her wishes fulfilled by us. She was hanging around with gangs at that time and we got the heebee geebees thinking she might come back and burn our house down with us in it!

We started locking our doors and windows. I pulled my vehicle up to the garage door AND locked the door from the inside. Just so I could take an afternoon nap and feel safe. She went into the neighbors backyard, found a ladder, climbed over the fence and jimmied her way through our patio door. I was asleep but woke to a noise and found her AND another female addict in my house looking all guilty. It's a long story but in the end she had stolen all of our house money: Some $350...money we had saved for a little outing.

You are a man of faith and a person with intellect. Between the two I wish you the very best. I hope the solution to your situation comes to you clearly and that you can make peace with your decisions.

Many, Many Best wishes to you and your family... :hug: