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[johnaries]

Manual.
You do the best you can and that's all you can do.

My advice would be to teach them first to be considerate of others.

Second, that actions have consequences, and we can't always predict what the consequences may be. Either be prepared to accept the worst possible consequences, or just don't take the chance in the first place.

Lastly, that you love them, because they are who they are. I can't tell you how many people I've known who totally screwed up thir lives because their parents threatened to with-hold love (or, atleast that's what the child felt).

Now, finding the balance between teaching your child the difference "I love you no matter what" and "I am not a door mat" is a very gray area that may take a lot of trial and error.

But, I can tell you that I know a lot more people that screwed up their lives by rebelling against overly protective parents than I know whose parents helped them figure it out on their own.

Of course, I am NOT talking about the spoiled brats whose parents "fixed" everything and never had to face consequences of any kind.

You'll figure it out eventually. As long as you teach them the basics you'll be fine.

And one day they'll completely disappoint you and break your heart like no one has ever been able to before.

Sorry, that does sound kinda depressing. Take lots of Pictures! Laugh now, every chance you get! Life is good as long as you let it...