Reply #34: Because it's a way to own the word (s) [View All]

[Solly Mack]

This is not to say I concur at how effective the measure is but that's how it's always been explained to me.

Racists and homophobes use the words as a means to hurt...a way to express their hatred toward another through the use of angry/ugly/hateful language.

If I call myself these names, then I now "own" the word... I use it on my terms and around those who understand my intent. In the process, I remove a lot of the sting and pain from the words.

However, don't let someone outside the "fold" use them against me...for their intent is to harm and express hate...and I will react accordingly.

it's a subtle difference that requires being on the receiving end of such hatred to fully understand and appreciate...though a good many people understand the nuances even if they can't relate.

Still..I don't use either word. My siblings and I do call each other "half-breed".. but heaven help the outsider who uses the word against us. :)