Reply #22: Good for You [View All]

[Coyote_Bandit]

A spade should be called a spade after all.

I too am not looking forward to the holidays. No problem with the parents as we have common political and religious beliefs. But my fundie brother and sister-in-law are hosting Thanksgiving and inviting her Baptist minister parents and seminary student sister. My sister-in-law miscarried very early in pregnancy several months ago. We have all been informed that as part of our Thanksgiving celebration we are going to go spend some time at the cemetery where a commemorative tree was planted even though there was no fetus to bury and even though we will all be in the area for at least a week and could easily have scheduled this separately. I sincerely understand the need to grieve. It is hard for me to fathom that being thankful and grieving such a loss are mutually compatible attitudes and emotions than can be fully experienced in the same few hours. Thanksgiving has to be my favorite holiday and I really feel like I will not celebrate it with my family this year - even though we will be together.