Reply #21: Well if he didn't take his cloths chances are he'll be back. [View All]

[notadmblnd]

Is this your first child together? amazing how things change once the little ones arrive, isn't it? My husband used to leave every time we argued too. Start with the I hate that I married you, your a bitch, I want a divorce crap, to the point where I finally didn't care if he stayed or left any longer. Once I asked if he wanted me to pack his shit or if he was going to do it himself but he always came back after a few hours.

When men are frightened, they get angry and when they get angry, they tend to take it out on the ones they love. My husband was sick for a long time and he was angry about that, he was frustrated becuase he felt useless because his physical abilities were extremely limited. I think he thought by trying to make us hate him, he was trying to make it easier for us to let him go. We had finally worked through his anger, fear and frustration and was at peace with each other again when he went to sleep one night and didn't wake up.

It's been just over a year now and somtimes I have to laugh. You see, he left us again and still left me with his things to pack.